i have a history of domestic abuse should i speak to women?

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hello i am an aspergers sufferer and have other mental health problems.

I have had psychological episodes in the past where I threatened to murder my exgirlfriend and apologised seconds after

I also told a female exchange student to jump in front of a truck. I have intimidated and threatened several women i have met irl and online.

I decided to distance myself from women after this as I know i would do it again


My best friend seems to think it is perfectly ok for me to speak to his girlfriend online knowing that I threatened to murder my ex and I think its odd.

Does everyone else agree with me that i shouldnt speak to my friends girlfriend.

Frank Sinatra threatened to kill people very frequently, and did not apologize seconds later. Many men have hit women, and not lost the relationship. I think your self control is certainly adequate, but you might want to learn new ways to interact in a therapeutic situation. We all have some learning to do on the way to perfection, so we have to keep practising, and not write off our chances prematurely.
Women do think differently than men, on average, so following the Golden Rule is not always enough to avoid frustration.

I agree with this. Definitely something to be worked on rather than avoided. Talking via the internet is probably a safe starting place. But first I would try and get some guidance on this from a counsellor or similar.

When something is preventing you from appropriately interacting with half the planet, it's no good for anyone involved. Keeping your associations remote is probably not such a bad idea, and distancing yourself while you work through this sounds like a rather wise decision.