Wait a Minute, I'm the One with a Disorder?

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I went to the tennis club at my university tonight, which I've been doing lately. I had this thought, thinking about some of the random undergraduates who were out there on the tennis court with me:

"Let me get this straight. I have two bachelor's degrees, I'm getting paid to get a PhD in physics, I've worked at NASA, I surf and have a host of talents I don't have time to tell you about, I can actually hold an intelligent conversation about most any topic, I'm generally responsible, and I get my work done. You, on the other hand, were too hung over to show up to class this morning to hand in your homework, you're going $40k in debt to get a degree in art history which will be totally useless after you graduate, you can't remember the name of the person you had sex with last night at the fraternity, and the only thing interesting about you is that you like to drink and party with your friends. And you're telling me that your behavior is normal and I'm the one with the disorder?"

Those are some really messed up societal values. The irresponsible reckless partying behavior is worthless at best and destructive at worst, and that's considered "normal"? While my failure to accurately read between the lines when someone made an ambiguous statement to me is a "disorder"? That seems really messed up to me.

LOL I've felt the same way. I decided I didn't want to be normal if that other behavior is normal. The drugs and drinking and the partying and always having friends around and chit chatting and getting pregnant. Yeah I know the stereotypes so I am aware now this isn't NT behavior and it's just human behavior and a stereotype about NTs and teenagers and being normal.

Oh good, this s**t again

No, the behaviour you're describing isn't normal. Unless you're just exaggerating and stereotyping people who enjoy parties.

Do not know about today, but it was normal behavoir when I went to college. I was looked at as wierd and a person not to be trusted because I was not like that. The ability to "hold your alchohol" was considered one the traits of bieng a real man. Not only at college but in the working world also.

I was actually told something was wrong with me because I prioritized academics over socialization. I think this was wrong. If I had been told to choose social activities based on my interests, that would have been reasonable. The counselors didn't think this way, however. I knew I was too uptight about my academic performance, but I should have had the right kind of help. I did well in school, but maybe I could have done even better if I had been given constructive advice on how to be less worried about my grades. Instead, I was put down and given a bunch of useless tests.

Yes, it is a disorder because you have difficulty communicating with "normal" people.
It may not be an issue if you can do everything you want to do.

But, there are tons of guys on the Love and Dating forum that complain that they can't get dates, and it is likely that this "disorder" is a big factor in their lack of success.

I can't imagine living that life. I'm in high school and I haven't actually seen many people like that. I think there is nothing wrong with focusing less on socialisation.

Everybody knows that inventors are crazy.
Inventors know that everyone is crazy.

I have been saying for years that I am the «Normal» one;
it's the other 98% of the whole entire world who are the ABNormal ones...!

Parties and other socializing activities like clubs can be very good for networking. I know the guy who was in line to be heir to 47th Street Photo. For some that may be a good way to get a good job.