Well, taking a look at the list Rascal posted, I would say it's not worth it.
For A) I would like to make friends because of their character and not because I want some status symbol (referring to the "can see people as objects" part of the list) and B) it sounds as if they want to convert someone to the average... well, I guess you know what word I'd type here but I'm not really pro usage of rude language.
Paying to change one's views to "I need friends on my shelf" in the manner of collecting miniature cars/stamps/cola bottles/whatever one could collect just to make one feel better and display a "good social status" but giving up on being who you are?
I have my doubts whether that would be a wise decision.
I'd like to add this:
- Missing out on having fun
- Stuck in a cycle that doesn't change
Having fun is subjective. For most aspies their special interest/obsession is their main source of fun and socialisation the opposite, tiring and annoying at times.
Being stuck in a cycle of isolation and minimal social contact is not really weird if one is an aspie simply because of the routines we have. But that is up to the individual to decide whether they want a change in routine and construct it with socialisation in the centre/as focus or not. I guess this is mainly made for "normal people" who are just (very) introverted or simply seen as unpopular.
Of course I would like to have friends that I have mutual interests with and that don't just go party. If I join their "fun", it is not fun for me. Party = too much input. I've caught myself trying to break that routine and it didn't feel right and tried to live a life the typical NT would live, it didn't work. It was tiring and exhausting, even if I wanted to, I'm not really capable of doing so. I'm not saying that whatever the website promotes won't work but I also don't say it will, after all I didn't even know that website before. Maybe it does work for NTs, maybe not, but I have doubts whether aspies could use this, simply the description with its highlighted words makes me doubt.
And then there is stuff like this:
Quote:
For the most part, "being yourself" is not the solution. It's the problem.
What it says is clear, but many tried to be not themselves and that turned out to be an even bigger problem and many (from what I've read here on WP) are simply tired of acting as if they are someone else just to fit in.
And really, to be totally honest, what is the point of having friends if what they like is your presentation but not your true self? Aren't friends supposed to accept you the way you are and not the way you pretend to be?
Those are of course my personal opinions on that topic and my own experiences. Don't forget that they differ from person to person.
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Diagnosed with Aspergers.
BSP-errors are awesome.
28 Jan 2013, 2:50 am
what a scam!
