how do you/did you make friends?

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the title says it all
tell me how you made friends.

its hard to say. its either your a people person or your not. i would start by going to the same place everyday. is there a coffee shop near by that you can go in, order a drink and some food? the more you go there the more the staff is going to recognize you and start to talk to you or if there are regular customers then their going to start socialize with you because you've become a regular customer.

I seek out activities based on my interests.

There are times when it is in my best interest to hold close to this individual, as they are needed to support my life and lifestyle. There are plenty of strangers walking down the street that I won't even acknowledge their existence. Then there are people I will meet out of a random act of kindness which is good for both of us. Regardless of the situation, I have to something to offer or something I need from them in order to meet them for the first time, even with that it is very hard to carry on a conversation beyond what I have to offer of to fulfill my needs.

I think I'm too depressed to have activities I'm actually interested in. I'd go to club meetings for stuff I'm slightly interested (so I don't actually have much to talk about anyway), but then I get turned off from the whole experience of seeing how effortlessly others communicate with each other. And how evidently everyone seems to have some consensus that I should be avoided. That last part could be paranoia on my part, but the instances that proved the theory are uncanny.

I made pretty much all of my friends at school. We bonded over our common interests (like TV shows and books) and that helped us get to know each other.

I am so not someone to give advice on making friends since I have maybe 2, and I see them once every 3-6 months if that. However one thing that does get me some social interaction is taking lessons from an instructor that I like. I have been working with my personal trainer 3 days a week for a number of years now. While we are not friends (we don't hang out socially ever) we do have a great rapport and I actually feel comfortable around him / like spending time with him. Maybe you could try something like this as a starting point?

i never argue with people. i am a very "peace and love" person, i have a strange and a bit black sense of humor and i don't like social convention and taboo. lot's of people ignore me and it is ok but i have one or two friends thar are actually my friend because of that, but they came near me first.

I'm not sure why I ever made friends. It must have been someone else befriending me because I wouldn't make the first move. However, online I've made some good friends.

One of my best friends from school shared a locker with me for a whole year before we ever spoke. She was dead quiet too and had the same last name as me so we were often stuck beside each other in alphabetical order.

Some people I am immediately comfortable with. Everyone thinks it's crazy because I will like and talk to one single person at work in a normal way, yet be straight faced and quiet with everyone else.

In high school it was either sitting with people who also got made fun of or attempting to socialize with others who had an interest in the whole anime/Japanese culture thing when it wasn't so mainstream.

After that, I either made friends online or through people my ex knew.