I'm the Bad Guy?

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My brother has friends. His friends like to tell me I abuse my brother. My parents (can't) step in because they're 10 years younger than me. I don't do anything and I get manipulated and taken advantage of because I'm extravagantly slow and stupid when it comes to social interaction. I just don't understand why people are so nasty. Any help or advice will be appreciated. I'm typing this quickly because I am not sure when they're going to pop in and I don't want them to see this but I feel like my space has been violated (my bedroom) and I feel unsafe. Thanks for responses.

I know that this sounds cliché, but hear me out. You need to stick up for yourself. Tell them to stop bullying you. Don't let people walk over you. You have numerous years ahead of yourself.

How are your parents 10 years younger than you? I, too, think of myself as slow and stupid when it comes to social interaction. I always wait for the other person to start a conversation. I feel like my family takes advantage of me because of my social awkwardness. They think they know everything and I know nothing. I absolutely HATE getting into confrontations and arguments because I never know what to say. I just stand there and take it. Whenever someone is yelling at me or screaming in my face, I just shut down. I can't even think straight when that happens. But now I'm working on speaking up for myself more and trying not to let other people, especially my family, treat me like a doormat. I know it seems like people are being nasty to you, but that's on them. It's not your fault. If they don't understand that you have Asperger's (which I'm guessing), then that's their problem, not yours. I think they, knowing that you struggle socially, are just being nasty to make themselves feel better. That's just my opinion. And how can your brother's friends say that you're abusing him? What do they say that you do to him? Are they just making it up to upset you? If I were you, I'd put a lock on my bedroom door to prevent anyone from getting in. They shouldn't just pop in without at least knocking first. That way, you can either let them know they can come in or tell them to go away. Ok, I hope this helped. Best of luck to you!

Some people are just plain nasty. They don't even need a reason. They just are jerks. That's life.

And that said, the important thing is to stand up for yourself. These people who are violating your space
have no right to be in your room. And it's none of their business if you're writing a post on Wrong Planet.

Now if it were me, I might try a mischievous way of handling it.
Does your brother live in the same house?
If so ... I would go into his room.
While eating a nice, big bowl of popcorn ...
and drop some popcorn on the floor ...

Now that may not be the right thing to do in reality, but it's kind of nice to think about, isn't it?

Anyways, I hope you get the general idea.
That your right to be respected
is just as important as your brother's.
You deserve peace and quiet, and to be left alone.
And sometimes, you have to fight for it.

All it should take is you saying, "Hey, outta my room."
And they should leave.

Since I don't know all your circumstances,
this is just musing ...
your mileage may vary.

...

You've got to stand up to them and tell it to them, like it is.

Woah, didn't expect a mistake like that to pop up. Laughing so much...
I probably meant to say I can't step in because my brother and his friends are 10 years younger than me, not my parents.

Start with the popcorn idea... move on to chocolate ice cream if they don't take the hint.

... just kidding.

You do deserve your space as much as they do. They need to understand this too.