Do you experience these things?

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There's a couple of things that I experience, and I'm very interested in whether they're familiar to any of you. They may be related to "weak central coherence" or "impaired executive function", or just the over-reliance on thought that comes from things that aren't processed intuitively. Whatever the case, they seem to me to be Aspie related...
So, regarding my sense of things:

* Almost every day, I wake up feeling vaguely anxious and unsure what to do with myself. I ask myself what's important? What are my goals? Can I take time for myself? What should I do first? I can't feel the answer, so I have think, and analyze, and think some more. And throughout the day, I come back to these questions again and again. It's exhausting, and usually doesn't let up until it's night and I'm alone .

* My anxiety and questions are also about my life overall. Trying to define where I am with people, what I'm wanting to focus on, what's going on with work, what I want to do creatively... The big picture. And sometimes I have awesome answers, but still I feel adrift before long, so the process keeps repeating. So much time trying to figure it out. But it's like I can't hold it together...

* At night, I often pace and talk out loud, sorting through my thoughts and trying to summarize what seems important in a very simple way. Then, I can relax. Otherwise, there's too much detail and I get lost.

* I find it's especially helpful to reference such summaries with keywords or short phrases, especially if they can rhyme or be spoken in rhythm.

* Similarly, I pace while rehearsing conversations that I'm going to have or maybe just wish I could have. It feels good to reach a point where my expression is clear and feels on point.

* Finally, I've notice recently that when I watch a really good tv series, I'll get a sense of how they're relating to each other, and be that way in the world. Like a temporary social template, that calms and grounds me around people. Then it passes when the show is over. Same thing happens when I read a really good book series. Or have an especially good time with a friend. Or buy a musical instrument and imagine myself with other musicians. All ways that I get a feel for the social that I can hang with for a few days... But of course, it always passes. My real interest now is to enjoy such things as they come, but to focus on being exactly as I am. Social or not.

Thanks, y'all.