Things You Do People Find Ridiculous

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I have several to list. Getting all tensed up and mad when people touch me. I just hate it. Its my body. Only I can touch my body. Even things like people greeting you and padding you on the back. The only thing I like to do with touching is hold my gf's hand. Not wanting to do social things. I notice this. If there's someone driving or walking down the road. My grandma waves at them. I think its stupid that she does that. She doesn't know them. So why do it. Not knowing my neighbors and not regretting it. Again social. A lot of this is going to be social related. Liking to shop online or self-checkout to avoid people or less of them. Because I always feel nervous or awkward when at a cash register. Just wanting to be myself. Yes I love to do this.

And by the way these are all things that my grandparents told me that I was wrong to think this. I think they want it changed. And sorry if too long.

So basically you don't want to be manhandled and want to mind your own business, keep to yourself and wish others would do the same for you. Hopefully having a gf keeps your grandparents somewhat satisfied. They are probably doing the "he needs to come out of his shell" thing.

But the thing is. With people I know like family members or classmates. I'm social with them and talks with them. But if its someone I don't know or never seen. I feel weird and awkward. I'm not going to say hi to them or wave. It seems like NT people are always like that. I wonder if my grandparents understand my social problems because I'm on the spectrum. I know they know that I'm socially awkward.

My parents and grandparents tell me that if I don't say hi or wave to somebody, they might assume I hate them before I even get to meet them properly. As a result, they'll hate me, and we'll never have a chance at a friendly relationship.

Maybe your grandparents are thinking something similar to this? Maybe they want to have a chance with people?

People find it ridiculous that I am obsessed with the word fish.

Yes weird NT thoughts.
Though this behaviour is more common in litte communities.
Less in large cities.

I live in a small town. So I guess that's why.

One thing I do that makes my normally calm and rational mother nearly go nuts is when she's with me while I'm on the computer and I keep moving the cursor around randomly with my mouse. But I do that because if I don't do anything on the computer and there's nothing moving onscreen, the screen goes blank after a few and have to use my mouse to make it come back on. Or maybe it's just a weird habit of mine. One time my mother just started snapping and growling at me for doing it. She apologized later, though.

I don't know about ridiculous, but maybe incomprehensible?

I have my own ways of doing things, they seem to confuse people to the point where they have to say something. I get asked 'is there method in your madness?' a lot. Like at least once a week, by different people.
In fairness to me, my way is the best way .
Probably does seem pretty strange from the outside though.

I think the same way. My way is the best way. And to my thinking the only the way.

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But the thing is. With people I know like family members or classmates. I'm social with them and talks with them. But if its someone I don't know or never seen. I feel weird and awkward. I'm not going to say hi to them or wave. It seems like NT people are always like that. I wonder if my grandparents understand my social problems because I'm on the spectrum. I know they know that I'm socially awkward.[/quote]

I understand how you feel. I have often felt like this. When I got older though, it dawned on me that everyone was a stranger at one time (besides your mother). The way they become friends is to smile, wave, and start a conversation. You never know who will make a great friend or what the relationship could lead to, so take every opportunity to extend yourself and be open to new friends.

Do I follow my own advice though? Well, maybe 40% of the time. That's a huge improvement though.

Yep that's it. I was fortunate enough to grow up in the Las Vegas suburbs, where most everyone is from someplace else and people kept to themselves.

But a couple of years ago I moved to a small city/town where most everyone is from there and they all know each other and each others families, grandparents, kids, the whole family tree.

Everyone in town knows me by now. That special/weird/whatever kid who's always with his dad or cousin.

It's a combination of being both cool and creepy.

People either say hello or wave all the time. They all know each other and now we are part of the fold or coven.

I wanna live there now.

* Not talking if other people are around in case they hear me.
* Facing the wall instead of the door when I stand in an elevator (I never knew I did that until I was told).
* Skipping my meal if someone cooks eggs in the kitchen, and then only using the cutlery, bowls and plates from the bottom of the stack for the next few days so that the ones that were used with the eggs or washed with the eggy things have been washed a few times.
* Having to sit on my part of the couch and getting annoyed if someone else sits there when I want to.
* Making sure I have everything I could need with me if I'm going somewhere, even if I'll be gone for 30 minutes.

I don't think any of the things you mentioned were weird and different. Sure some I don't do. But the last 2 you listed I do or done stuff similar to that. So I feel ya 100% on this.

Hmm... for my boyfriend the weirdest and the most annoying thing is that I don't wanna kiss or cuddle most of the time and I like keeping a bit of distance from him. Also I'm startled when he is approaching me in a physical way. This offends him and I feel really bad about it.

My parents... They find it hilarious when I rock or do other (happy) stims. They used to complain about it when i didn't greet somebody (I didn't do it even when I actually knew the person). Now I nod and smile if I barely know the person and if the person is a close friend of my family I will say hello. But I sometimes simply don't recognize people. Never thought about it as a big deal though.

Other people have told me I always have the same face with a grin and I smile and laugh way too much, even in the sad situations.

I know there are many other things as well.