obsession with schedules

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is it an autistic thing to be obsessed with everything happening in a certain time frame, and if it doesn't, I get really anxious?
because it's 10 pm and I expected my partner to text me or call me way before, but he hasn't, and so now Im rocking and flapping my hands and Ive got a sour feeling in my tummy. Im not nervous that something bad happened, I just dont like that it's not in the time frame I expected it to be.

I think so. Also, we tend to take people exactly at their word and expect them to do exactly what they say they'll do. My wife thinks I massively overreact if she calls an hour later than she said. But then I ask, why did you say you would if you didn't know you could?

It's pretty normal to get anxious when a close one promised to text or call at a set time and the time long passed. It can get everyone worried, especially when you don't know where they are and what they are doing but those in the spectrum are especially prone to worrying too much. Or maybe it is some other issue?

My mom often doesn't keep her promises but I sort of got used to it and ignore it. I will worry a bit but I will calm myself, thinking "You know her, it's just how she is." etc. before I get too anxious and if I can't stand it anymore I will call her and ask her where she is and why wouldn't she call. And if she won't pick the phone I will convince myself she is driving home so she can't pick it up so I wait 15 mins to either her get home or call me back before I start panicking again.
My dad however is clearly unable to calm down. He will constantly look at the clock and when mom finally returns home he will yell at her then he won't talk to her for 3 days for "ignoring" so much. But he won't call her himself until he is so angry(he snaps due to being too anxious for too long) all he is able to say is "You can stay wherever you are till the morning if you don't know where your home is and who is your husband". Then he won't even listen to her answer, just break the call afterwards.
My mom on the other hand doesn't give a damn if we are late (she is actually happy when I am late because she thinks I finally found myself a boyfriend therefore I am too busy and I will call her soon that I am staying the night, lol).

So the anxiety might be Asperger thing but your reaction and control over it is your own responsibility, it could be slight or unbearable depending how strong you let it build up.

It is a presentation of a "special interest" and high anxiety about change associated with autism.