Incredibly exhausted after party, future advice?

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Today i was at a fancy party.
I was very exhausting and even though i had rested well and tried to prepare myself i still wasn't able to look people in the eyes when shaking their hands. (people usually hug, but i got away with just shaking they hands although i personally would have preferred a high five or a fist bump).
I'm always torn when it comes to going to parties (note: these are more like fancy family gatherings to celebrate someone or something specific, not a teenage party with copious amounts of alcohol) i don't want to go, but i don't want to not go.
I hate the saying hi and shaking hands part since it is so loud and people are all talking and i am snuggling to process things but i have to go and say hi and look people in the eyes and be polite.

How can i make it easier for myself in the future?

I think I have the same problem. I sometimes hate saying hi and greeting people too. In terms of advice, I guess it is something that you should force yourself to do. Whenever you go to an event, don't overthink. Overthinking makes it worse. Just go in there with a calm mindset. Don't overthink about the process of meeting others. Make a conscious effort to avoid awkward interactions. It is very common for me to experience awkward interactions with people.

It might help to think of yourself as an actor, detached from the role at parties. I get away with looking at eyebrows, etc, instead of eyes.
However, another possible factor is forgetting to drink enough water, etc, or eating too much refined food.

If it's the greeting part that is the main problem, there are two things that you could try.
First, you can try being extremely early, the first to arrive. At this point, there will be a recovery time since the people will arrive with some time in between.

The other option is to arrive quite late, which means you only need to greet a small amount of people at a time (the conversation group you walk up to), also allowing you to recover in between.

+1 good post

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It's a reference to an aromatic strain of marijuana. Taking cannabis helps some autistics deal with stress and social situations better, but not all.

Oh I hate shaking hands. Why do people do that.