Do you remember withdrawing?

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As a toddler, I remember sometimes asking "Why?" in response to every answer. It is how children first surf the world of information. Then, I stopped asking either parent for advice and never did again. It happened when I was frustrated with perspective or some such problem with a drawing, and I asked my mother, an aspie and pro photographer, how to fix it. The best answer would have been "I can't look now, or I'll burn our supper." Instead, she said "That's nice."
I think that my basic trust in my parents had been ruined even earlier by the experience of going for vaccinations, with no explanation or consolation I could understand.

I recall withdrawing from my parents because my mother would shout a lot. She had a short temper. My dad was much the same, only worse. He threw things and broke them and his voice was unbearably loud when he yelled. Because I was so scared of them I'd often not tell them about my day. Even when I needed their help sometimes I was too scared to ask because they'd got angry with me so often. In my opinion neither of them actually did what I would constitute as "domestic abuse", they were just sloppy parents. Clueless. It sounds like in a different kind of way, yours were not all that great at parenting either. When you make a child do something major (like getting vaccinations) without explanation that is traumatic.