hard to handle anomosity

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i am somewhat in charge of this section at work now that our boss is leaving and i have had a lot of trouble dealing with the transition.....i have horrible people skills and i take everything literally. i spoke with them all and i feel as if i am just digging a deeper hole for myself...i told them i want to be fair but i am not the energetic people person our old boss was....i feel inadaquete although i do know i will ensure the job gets done...long story short some staff didnt like what i had to say about the rules and the way i want things to be done so now there is an ora of anomosity in the office that i have to try and clear up....i have abosoloutely no skills at this type of stuff because i usually veer away from moments like these or never allow myself to care enough to say anything...being that i will more than likely be in charge, i know i have to advance these once neglected skills...i dont even think im looking for advice here...i just needed to vent and type out loud...

It is hard to handle. Do you have a mentor to help?

Go ahead vent!

I find at such times some order and understanding of problems comes about. I know these problems my work has been and is changing from technical to administration / people skills it is not easy to deal with. It is very easy to upset people you have to work with and that does not help anyone.
Sorry no proper advice but I will watch this tread with interest.

my boss is kind of my mentor about this situation, alothough to be honest i am a little too embarassed and proud to speak these words out loud....i know it can be difficult when people you consider a friend has to tell you what to do....i am just trying to not space out or get pissed when they question my actions....possibly because i still feel anxious about telling them what to do now, i question things that usually went unsaid in the office and that angers some of the staff....

its like i know what i want in my head, but trying to make people understand my reasoning baffles me sometimes...
i just wish there were some kind of moniter on our heads that would display what our true thoughts and intentions are..that would be so much easier...

I'm currently working at the hospital as secretary, so I have to interact with many different people a lot (fortunately only 3 1/2 hours a day).

I HATE this f.....g job!

Some people look at me as if I'm crazy, some look disgusted, some scared, some seem to feel pity, they ask things assuming things I just CAN'T know, the more logic and simple I am when speaking the less they understand, having to make eye contact just sucks (as usual), I could go on with many other issues.....bottom line: F--K OFF ! !! !! !! !!

So, I can understand you, the more I interact with people the more it seems to me that we and NTs are more like different species who just can't communicate in an effective way.

sorry to hear your job sucks like it does....what i have learned is to give the impression that i am looking someone in the eye is to look at the center of their head....think Hindu with the red dot...(hopefully i didnt offend)

but anyway ive gotten better at shooting the perverbial s*&t with people but when its something that i think will anger or hurt someone i get really weird and cannot think straight...its also kind of bad to say this, but i find when i am very sad or angry i find it easier to talk to people..kind of like i dont give a S%&t what anyone thinks....

btw most people just think i am slow, depressed, or angry most of the time....usually im just thinking...