Dating with Aspergers?

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what are some challenges you face when it comes to dating and having Aspergers?

Whilst my diagnosis is strictly a form of autism, it's difficult for me to meet women because I am yet to learn how to make small talk and I cannot read people at all.

Moreover, why would anyone want to date someone who is degreeless and unemployed?

My ex has said she would get back together with me IF I can manage to find work and stick at it for a change.

I never really dated. Nobody ever wanted me.

Finding people I can connect with without having to be "on" and awkward feeling. Finding interesting people.

I don't even date anymore. I'd rather not start a romantic relationship with someone from the get-go. It's best to have friends first then if it develops into a romantic thing, yea. I hate when people ask me if I'm single, because even if I was I'm not looking to date.

communicating. by far the biggest challenge. i can connect and click with people, i can meet people, but after a month or so we never learn to trust or communicate. then we start playing psychological games on each other (usually without realizing that's what we're doing) we both fail each other's tests, we assume we don't care, then we fight, we blow up. then we move on, realizing trust will never come around.

i've never been able to sit down with someone and ask "what are we, where is this going? what do i need to do to make this successful?" it's always just been the lust, affection and attention that never grows into a bond.

Not having much room to be myself within the relationship, so it gets boring.