Aspergers Neurological Sensitivity

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I really have been scaring myself lately, is it a Aspie issue that we can't handle a lot of stress or being irritated for long periods? for example my father can at times be ''high strung'' ''nervous'' and get angry easily verbally, and along with everything else bothering me in my life I get irritable and need to ''relax'' for hours, yet NT's seem to be able to handle a lot easier, but I need a ''quiet'' life, I actually make myself physically sick

While that can exist independent of Aspergers/Autism, yes, it is a known part of having this stuff.

I don't consider myself a ''weak'' or ''fragile'' person but it does seem I have a strong yet sensitive or intricate nervous system. I can only be pushed so far then I either get upset or yell, I usually leave the room and have ''crying episodes'' instead of losing my temper. The other issue I worry about as far as stress is not wanting to ''take on'' a lot, for example my senior year everybody was in a hurry to ''take on the world'' and I wasn't ready and am still not

That also is a thing.

You are the one person who is living in your body and doing your being & therefore you are the only person who can truly know what you are ready to do and how much of it you are up to doing before going in to overload.

Perhaps useful information in there?

https://www.autism360.com/news/managing ... condition/

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A good example is I don't consider myself a ''immature'' person but intelligent and professional, yet at the same time I don't want a high stress job, wife, and many children, as I feel all at once would be ''too much'' yet I am just fine with taking care of my dog and the responsibility, when I was in High School and even now if you are not interested in the so called ''NT Dream'' people look at me like something is wrong with me

I attribute that 'looking at' to a fantasy, a myth, our society/culture has adopted, has bought in to; perhaps it can even be justifiably be called The Lie of Being "Successful".

This society has been sold a belief about what "Success" is and they have bought it without reading the fine print.

And because of the inherent tribalism of human beings, those who bought the lie look down upon the "renegades" who are not buying the lie, are not living the lie.

You be you.

If that You is at heart a conformist, then you be you & if that You is a renegade non-conformist, then you be you.

You are not living society's life and society is not living your life.

kitesandtrainsandcats I sent you a private message and I apologize for getting way off topic but, do you happen to know a woman named Pearl? I know Missouri is a big state but it's worth a shot to ask

At the moment that private message hasn't appeared but I do see this.

Pearl is not a name used by anyone I know here.

you don't know any Asian Woman in person by that name? she is a Phillipina woman I met online years ago

Nope. Only women I directly know who have Asian ethnicity are my 2 nephews' wives who each have names with several more syllables than Pearl does.

Amen to that. Whenever I've been pushed into something I don't feel ready for, it's usually gone wrong. Often I have no clear idea why I'm not ready, but my instinct seems to know. When I've had time to consider a requirement, to figure out that I'd better give it a try, and to psych myself up to it, I'm often surprised how well I can do. But it has to come from me.

BINGO!

So true, everyone is chasing a predetermined set of goals. It's like they are competing with each other about who achieves those goals faster and better. That could explain partly why people are hostile to autistics. I can now recollect instances where people where either laughing at me or even being enraged by me not perusing what they belive is a universally accepted mode of operation. It's as if they are projecting their own frustration at the exhaustion they feel after a lifetime of chasing those milestones. They get upset about how can I be content at a moment where I haven't even tried to persue those goals.

I sometimes feel a bit uneasy about not wanting to take on much, but it's comforting to remember that the average American spends 4 hours a day watching TV and quite a lot of time piddling around on a smartphone. Not exactly busting a gut are they?