pluto wrote:
I've been asked to 'Relax' on a few occasions.All it does is make me more self conscious and
tense than I was in the first place !
Yes, I get that too. I can't relax - I've even tried meditation and that doesn't help - I just become really conscious of people's breathing and clocks ticking etc.
The closest I get to relaxing is doing an activity (or engaging in one of my 'obsessions' that totally engrosses me and enables me to block other things out.
I also find that people misinterpret my feelings or intentions from my facial expression. When I used to have to go food shopping with my mother as a child, I just had a neutral expression because I was neither sad nor happy. She would discipline me for looking 'tense' and not looking happy and said I did it on purpose to make people think she was a bad mother!!
But I wasn't doing anything!
I still have this problem today - I just can't do the facial expression thing.
And I certainly cannot relax.