Relax!

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Are people always telling you to "relax"? I admit that I do tend to get more worked up over small things than other people do, and I am highly anxious in general, but people always seem to think that I'm totally a wreck, even when I'm really not. I think it's because I tend to speak quickly, and maybe something about my intonation makes them think I'm freaked out. Anyway, I really hate it. My ex-boyfriend used to say, "Shhh, shhh" when I wasn't really worked up at all. It drove me crazy, because I felt like he was treating me like an over-excited toddler.

Na...the opposite:

‘Talk,’ ‘show personality...’ and ‘...lighten up!' A lot of '...you're a cool one aren't you?'

This is due to me looking like a rock externally; internally, I'm an anxious and hate filled mess with multiple personalities that cannot stop talking.

*SHRUG*

They cannot "read" you, so they're just guessing what you're feeling like.

Every single day, usually multiple times a day, I get, "What's the matter?"

Nothing is the matter people! I'm FINE! Stop asking me that; you're making me think there IS something wrong, and there isn't anything wrong!

Something my Dad always said to me when I was still living with my family. He also told me not to get over excited. Did I look excited to him when I was having an anxiety attack to changes or noise.

My ex also told me "Relax." Got on my nerves.

My brother used to do that. And then he would argue with me when I told him that there was absolutely nothing wrong: "I know there's something wrong!" Um, no there's not. I'm just fine. I guess it's sweet that he cared so much, but it got annoying.

nah, i get the opposite response. well not recently, but someone once said that i was so laid back i would fall over, or something.
i have no idea what that meant.

I've been asked to 'Relax' on a few occasions.All it does is make me more self conscious and
tense than I was in the first place !

yeah i get that as well....either its because i take thinkgs too literally or someone isnt satisfied with expression....my gf also says that when im with here because i am a highly anxious person and i shake and have sweaty hands sometimes with her...although i am really excited to see her she thinks something is wrong with me when its just the opposite because i am happy to be with her...it also doesnt help when someone brings it up as if i already didnt know....sometimes i wonder why i even show emotions at all...people tend to just s&%t on them in the end anyway....

That's good advice!

I get told to relax sometimes but not often.

the advice i hear most of the times is to start drinking alcohol. they don't want me to be getting drunk, they just think that i am not relax, because i don't drink alcohol. people think that my ability to make a move and be more talkative in new company would increase if had some beer. they always tell me, 'stop closing yourself off', 'go out', 'meet new people', 'have a drink', 'be more relax', 'live a life!', thanks, it sounds so easy.

People say things like that to me. A few days ago, someone at school told me, "You're going to have to make a decision about which college to go to soon." I nodded, then they said "Don't look so worried!"

Worried? Did I look worried? I can't tell what my expression was like, but I definately didn't feel worried at all. I felt normal.

And there was a kid at my old school who was always telling me what to do, "relax" being one of the things he said.

My husband does this to me ALL THE TIME!! It drives me nuts and then I do get mad only proving his point even though I wasn't mad before.

yes,"relax" in NT speak often means "shut up and comply with me".

Yes, I get that too. I can't relax - I've even tried meditation and that doesn't help - I just become really conscious of people's breathing and clocks ticking etc.

The closest I get to relaxing is doing an activity (or engaging in one of my 'obsessions' that totally engrosses me and enables me to block other things out.

I also find that people misinterpret my feelings or intentions from my facial expression. When I used to have to go food shopping with my mother as a child, I just had a neutral expression because I was neither sad nor happy. She would discipline me for looking 'tense' and not looking happy and said I did it on purpose to make people think she was a bad mother!!

But I wasn't doing anything!

I still have this problem today - I just can't do the facial expression thing.
And I certainly cannot relax.

yes I hear that alot, but I hear "calm down" more often, I always tell them "I'm not hyper!"