May I get some advice?

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Lately I have been feeling like I can't talk about my problems without getting judged and getting comments like "Your just overthinking it" from my family. It's hard because I just want someone to listen and not get input and comments that aren't helping at all. It is getting frustrating me so I asked my Mom if she could find me a therapist but she keeps putting it to the side. I'm stuck on what I need to do so I just wanted to ask if any of you guys have any advice. Thank you so much!

Schools have therapists, usually free. The therapist I was seeing did house sessions, she said if I ever wanted to call for a session I could. Money is not usually an issue if you can't afford it, they will make it affordable. If you can get transportation, maybe go around your parents? I have found that parents can contribute to and exacerbate issues, so if you can't wait and know what you need, go for it. Or keep asking your mom until she takes you, mental and emotional health is important. Perhaps you can get a trusted adult on your side on the issue and to confront your parents to take you to a therapist.

A lot of the advice in a patriarchal world is by men and benefits men. I suggest seeking women authors to read simply because they have had the same experiences.

I feel the same way. I feel like people think I'm making a big deal to either get attention or get rid of boredom. Or because I'm hysterical/overreactive or something.


But in all seriousness, you can PM me if you want. I love talking to people about their problems.

I have moments where I feel like that about my friends. When they offer advice or try and provide their take on things sometimes I feel like they aren't listening to how I'm really feeling or what I'm really saying.

Saying "you're overthinking it" isn't really judgemental even though it feels that way. They are trying to find words to make it better. They haven't experienced the same thing so they try and fix it as best they can, but they don't really know how.

A therapist sounds good. In the UK I would go to see my General Practioner for a referral. Not sure how it works in your country.

Schools have therapists, usually free. The therapist I was seeing did house sessions, she said if I ever wanted to call for a session I could. Money is not usually an issue if you can't afford it, they will make it affordable. If you can get transportation, maybe go around your parents? I have found that parents can contribute to and exacerbate issues, so if you can't wait and know what you need, go for it. Or keep asking your mom until she takes you, mental and emotional health is important. Perhaps you can get a trusted adult on your side on the issue and to confront your parents to take you to a therapist.

A lot of the advice in a patriarchal world is by men and benefits men. I suggest seeking women authors to read simply because they have had the same experiences.
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yes, a lot of the advice is by men, with the desires of men in mind. even moreso with neurotypical and cisgender precious lil "people".

quite frankly, everyone is biased. and some precious lil "people" are so arrogant they do not even recognize their own biases. prejudice.

yes, schools have counselors.

those counselors are also biased. when i was 20 (2003, ucsd), went to a school psychologist. told her i was flunking out Structural Engineering and that i wanted to enlist in the Air Force.

she had the nerve to tell me that "statistics show that people with bachelor degrees earn an average of one million dollars per lifetime more than people without bachelor degrees."

instead, she should've told me that MEPS would PDQ me, based on (1) autism (2) clinical depression/prozac (3) anxiety/ativan (4) irritable bowel syndrome (or worse) (5) over 6 months counseling and (6) at the time, Don't Ask Don't Tell. Gender Identity Disorder

b/c the precious lil "person" did not know me as well as she acted like she did.

she worked for the school. her job description might have told her to tell every client to apply to, go to, or stay in UCSD.

brand loyalty



but yeah if the only counselor you can afford is the school counselor, might as well go. but if things do not feel like they are working, then go to a different counselor.