NTs or AS who would you rather be with

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Just wondering about everyone who would you all rather be with Someone who is completly NT or someone who has AS

Which is easier I tend to like a bit of both personally

Friends: I can go either way.

Romantic partner: I would prefer someone with AS.

Tim

Whoever can understand and relate to me.

Yes!!

I find it easier to relate to "non-regular" people, especially if you mean interacting for a medium-to-long period of time. The guy I go to b.ball games with is SO average and NT, but the friends I go out with are all kind of weird (I think at least one of them may have AS).

- pka SocialParadox -

I'm not sure. I guess I'd like to be with someone who has AS traits, so they can understand me a bit more, but if they are NT and understanding, it might be alright as well. Whether they are AS or NT are probably not as much what I care about, it would be more a matter of what each our personalities are and whether they clash or compliment well..

If it is a friend or a partner, someone with AS who also understands me.

If it is a teacher or co-worker etc... then NT.

I like friends who are sufficiently quirky, AS or not.

Other people are nice to be around for limited periods of time. I can learn a lot from them, too. But it gets too taxing for me to keep up long-term, because I can't talk with any depth about the things that really interest me. So I have to pretend I'm interested in all those uninteresting topics, like who won Dance with the Stars. Just saying this makes me feel like such a snob... but I'd rather stare at the wall for an hour than watch a show like that.

NT's

Ditto. I prefer to be around people who accept my own idiosyncrasies, but I don't much care whether they themselves are NT or not. I have friends who are both, and I don't appreciate the AS friends more than the NT ones or vice versa.

I know some understanding NTs but still pick up vibes that they are finding it hard work and are making an effort. I have more relaxed conversations with aspies but then it depends on the individual and how well you get on - aspies can be as*holes too!

I like being around good people period. And especially people that like children and animals.

The first "love of my life" was NT but very intelligent and obsessed with music. But he had peer pressure issues.
Another guy is bipolar and probably most like me. Aside from the mental instability aspect, he's a lot like my husband too. Very artistic, can talk intelligently and passionately. Very independent, could care less what others think.

I met a woman who I hit it off with immediately. I think she's either Aspie or full on autistic and bipolar. It was like meeting a twin, a much more attractive twin.

I've never met anyone with AS so I don't know, but probably someone else with AS because I'd be less likely to have to worry about as much then. I don't dislike NTs though.

As I've talked to both aspies and NT's here and IRL for years I can't really notice a qualitative difference aside from the fact that the separations are different. If I get along with anyone, AS or NT, its usually on qualities that are completely neither here nor there regarding those things and I'll have friends who are everything from HFA to ultra-social and even popular NT's just by where our interests, commonatlies, and life experiences lie and also strange enough what they tend to see in me.

With relationships though, don't know and maybe never will. I am talking to someone who definitely seems aspie-ish and she's so much like me its uncanny. Sadly its an online thing and things like that tend to just plod along almost indefinitely and go nowhere (and its not like I won't take the mandatory guy's initiative to ask a woman out somewhere either). If I do end up with someone my guess is she'll either be NT since the NT friends I have I can relate to on a much deeper emotional level, or if she's on spectrum she'll be extreme light end - enough to where all those things I just mentioned will be almost like an NT with subtle difference. As for the true-blue 'geek is sheik' type aspies out there, I think they miss the best parts of me and it usually works out that they're a bit judgmental of people who aren't on their program or pattern of beliefs.

WOW, why would you prefer NT for a teacher or coworker?

As for me, I guess I would prefer someone, as a friend coworker or spouse, that is mild AS like I am. Special abilities would be FINE, even GREAT, as long as he/she understands I may not have them. Sensitivities would be FINE, possibly even GOOD, as long as he/she can live in an area that I can.

Steve