NTs finding us objectionable?

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Why sometimes do neurotypicals find people with aspergers objectionable?

because sometimes some aspies are understandably unbearable to be around.

Why are they unbearable to be around?

If I do what comes naturally in a conversation, I've been told I monologue.
Having also listened to other people monologuing at me sometimes, I can vouch for the fact that it can get rather unbearable.

Oh just the things we do and say, nothing much really.

My two closest friends and I can sometimes annoy each other. We all have mental health problems and understand that.

I was just going to say something along those lines. I've had people monologue to me about things that I'm not interested in. I think about how it makes me feel and that helps me to catch myself in the act.

I also like to keep myself busy, so I don't have time to worry about what NTs think of us.

The "Uncanny Valley" theory which says something close to but not normal creeps people out.

We might also come off as rude and terribly inconsiderate. People find that behaviour objectionable. When confronted, we want explanations which just seems argumentative and stubborn. Without proper explanation, aspies continue in their behaviour without picking up on cues that people are annoyed and or disgusted which further exacerbates the issue.

Our meltdowns, social ineptness, and misunderstandings can scare people, cause us to get fired, lead to a burning of many relationship bridges, and sometimes even cause the police to get involved.

We say things people find very tactless and perhaps outright mean.

There is a tendency to constantly correct people's errors, even in situations where emotional understanding is more desired. For instance, I recently corrected an older woman (in her 70s) for complaining about the alleged accuracy of a news link article. She thought the news link article I posted was incorrect. I messaged her showing that it was incontrovertibly correct. She was totally wrong and didn't want to admit it because it was a sensitive subject, and she thought it was socially inappropriate for a youngster like me to "admonish" her. I guess I should have just let it go, but at the time, it was too hard to resist the urge to let her continue to remain in ignorance on that particular subject. Had I read social cues properly, I would have realized that it was useless to try and correct her regardless -- she had her mind made up, she already was condescending to me over my age, and no amount of proof on this matter would have satisfied her, because she was already biased to disbelieve.

They're jealous because we are superior to them. I'm not being serious.

Nice one, that was funny. My mental health personally makes me less than a person. We function worse. In terms of fitness (ability to reproduce) we lose.

"We say things people find very tactless"

Or just say things.

One of my favourites is: "I'm not actually discussing this with you... I'm just telling you the facts so that you don't make the same mistake and embarrass yourself."
I don't suppose that goes down very well.

Yeah but hyperfocus and fixed interest are super powers.