Has anyone screwed up their reputation then healed it?

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I put this originally in the social skills subforum, but I don't think it's that busy there. As a business owner this is something I need to fix ASAP, so how? Here's the original thread:

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In a small sense, I have.

I was a total pariah in high school until my senior year.

Then it was discovered that I write good poetry.

I started to repair my reputation then.

You could, too, by being a great yoga teacher, and making sure you live by "yoga" values.

Nice, I want to do more writing as I get the time.

I keep meaning to launch my blog, but the big thing holding me back is how to address the custody battle. And time budgeting, so people get new material on a regular basis.

I have sometimes been able to repair a damaged relationship by being charismatic and telling a lot of jokes. Seems to work with NTs because it makes them feel good and then they start to look forward to the next time you tell another joke thus your reputation will improve and you will look more positive to others.

Some NTs aren't as easily charmed but on the whole this tactic seems to work quite well. Being loud and drawing attention to yourself in a charismatic way seems to do the trick. Of course I should mention that this method took about 20 years to perfect. It's not an easy thing for Autistics to be charismatic.

I would suggest trying to emulate and copycat Bill Gates or Mark Zuckerberg. I have my suspicions that they have Asperger's Syndrome.

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Hmmm, interesting, I can definitely incorporate humor into the marketing for my studio!

I don't really know what kind of reputation I have, but in high school, a lot of people thought I was just an unstable mess. They probably also knew me as a poser, because I desperately wanted to fit in and I would pretend I wasn't autistic (though I'm sure everybody saw right through that) and that I liked things I actually couldn't stand.

Now, I'm trying to not try as hard (if that makes any sense) and I am no longer ashamed of who I really am. I'm autistic, I'm obsessed with Science Fiction and the UK, and I'm okay with that. I want people to know that this is the real me and that I'm not the same person I used to be, but I think it just takes time to change people's minds and for people to understand that people change and grow. One needs to have positive experiences with those people and eventually, they will likely see the real you and not associate you with the bad experiences. High school wasn't that long ago for me, but I have grown a lot, I think and I wish that more people knew that, but it doesn't really matter what they think in the long run. The people who really know me know I have changed (hopefully for the better) and that I'm happier living without having to constantly pretend to be somebody I'm not.

It might take a little time, sadly, but it is worth it. Good luck

Thanks guys. I did some thinking and decided the best way forward is to launch my blog asap. It was going to be a combination of writing about Yoga, motherhood, vegan recipes and nutrition, and triathlon training, but I'm thinking as I launch it documenting my journey back to wellness will be a priority. And it's a great marketing tool for my yoga studio. In any case, we'll also have a Facebook page, so if anyone here is interested in following it message me then I'll message you the details when I launch it.