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Hi I was diagnosed with aspergers a few years ago. I worked a lot on my social skills and I am doing much better. I am in 12th grade since I started high school I was totally alone and friendless. This year there is some one I started to hang out with mostly in school during breaks but occasionally out of school also. I texted him twice if he wants to go to an amusement park with me he never answered me back I don't know if he just never saw the texts or he is ignoring me. should I call him and ask him? I don't want him to feel like I am clinging to him or that I am desperaten. but maybe he just never saw my texts and would be happy to go. should I call him and ask him or no?

He probably saw it and doesn't want to hang out (or have the money), but maybe you should ask him in person.

Yes, that's what I would do in such a circumstance, ask him in person the next time you see him. I definitely would not take it personally since there are many reasons why you did not get a response that have nothing to do with you. His not being able to afford it is perhaps the most likely one.

Other possibilities are that another friend wants all his spare time, or that he'd rather do something else. You could ask about going with a group of friends, and/or ask for his suggestion of a destination. Maybe even ask where he's going, and ask to tag along. There are dozens of other possible reasons for the hiatus; I have seldom found out why my life has had to change course, let alone why it can't advance as planned. A friend of mine probably turned down a perfect marriage, just because of a little extra age difference, and he never explained it to the lady.

Just ask if he got your texts about the amusement park. I'd say of if he says yes, then just let it slide rather than ask why he didn't reply. Maybe he's scared of rides and doesn't want to admit it, who knows.

...And often helpful to re-assure someone that it is alright to say "No" if they don't want to go.