Being told you're in your own little world

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Hello,

Bit of a random question really but I wondered if this is a particular trait related to ASD or if it is just me. I often am in my own little world and daydream a lot but I don't tend to see it as a problem or think that it is all too obvious for the most part. However, I'm just thinking over what my boyfriend (well, ex-boyfriend) said to me when we split up. He said that I'm often in my own little world and he knows I can't help it and was saying a load of other things about not understanding what's wrong with me and I'm cagey about it. I think he was saying it's cos of the ASD and I guess I have just accepted it....but is it? Who else is like that? Is that just a me thing or is it more. I do try with him, but sometimes I just need to zone out and it's not even deliberate.

It is a common ASD trait.

Being 'in your own world' is kinda the defining trait of autism, a word which starts with the syllable "aut" which means "self".

When I was young I was pathologically into daydreaming. Now I waste time on U tube and here on WP. So the Web kinda does the work of daydreaming and time wasting for me.

I always got told that too. When I told my mom I wanted to be a veterinarian and believed I very well could, she told me I was living in a fantasy world. She said I couldn't be one because of all the math requirements in college. I had undiagnosed dyscalculia, but to everyone else I was just lazy and un-modivated to learn math. Supposedly since I could remember "everything" about meerkats and animals, I should be able to remember everything about math too. Anyway, I eventually did get a diagnosis of dyscalculia and can get accommodations in college. And EVERY vet I've talked too says that if I want to REALLY study math, a pre-vet degree isn't the way to do it. A pre-vet degree is mostly science. I never really listened when people told me I was living in a fantasy world. Maybe I was or still am, but I'd rather be in a fantasy world trying to peruse MY dreams, than stuck in some boring reality where I'm some kind of biological automaton.

Only a few could ever notice I have a world of my own. And half of them find that out during my childhood.

As an adult, no one usually realizes I'm whispering dialogues or reenacting actions in front of them. Unless their hearing is good, or that it's a little more obvious.
Because I learned some odd dual split-thought thing on accident (I can't explain it well, but it's like more or less a literal multitasking with transparent layers instead of divided attention) that separates the thoughts of the present environment and situation, from my internal thoughts from daydreams to obsessions.
It helps that I don't have motor coordination issues.


Then there are those who thinks I'm in a bubble who isolated myself for the wrong reasons. I'm not willfully ignorant to the world around me -- I'm just not interested nor really want to be involved. I don't see the world through a 'bubble that surrounds me', I see it outside theirs'.

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I was told pretty much daily as a child that I was in my own little world. I still get that occasionally from those who know me best, but I guess I fool most people. They don't know that yes, I am in my own little world, and quite content to be there.

I was an extreme daydreamer as a child and teenager. I'm finding out that it's a very healthy coping mechanism that I need to get back into, much better than some of the bad habits I've adopted in adulthood.

I would say that I am intensely focused when I am at work. I think of what I need to do during the day. I sometimes get startled if I hear someone speaking to me. Otherwise, I wouldn't say I was in my own world.