29 Nov 2017, 1:42 pm
Okay, so I recently tried to call someone out on their apparent copycat behavior. This person appeared to develop an almost identical injury to me and they continue to tell me about it. However, they are basically repeating everything that I told them about mine, including how I told them I cope with it. If I tell tell them that I have to do something a certain way because of the injury, they will say to me a while later something like "I've been having to do things like this" (repeating exactly what I said). It's odd. It's actually quite unnerving. It's not the first time either.
But it's what happens when I try to call them out on it that bothers me. When I pointed out that it seemed funny that they quickly developed this injury shortly after I did, and that they are saying exactly what I said, and that it seemed rather odd to me, they initially just carried on with what they were doing in a blank faced kind of way. No reaction. Not even a flicker. No amount of me saying "That's exactly what I said, How VERY odd" in the most obvious and snarky tone had any effect. They completely missed what I was getting at which was...."Is it me, or are you copying me?" While their injury could be coincidence (although it strangely changed sides 
) or they could be an illness one-upper type, it's that response or indeed lack of it that catches my attention. It's actually quite typical of this person to have no reaction or strange reactions to things. There's other things as well, and I'm beginning to wonder.
Like the time that they said to someone "You look really nice for once" and I had to try and explain why that was offensive while they voiced their objections of "But they did look nice for once".
Anyways, is that the sort of implied meaning that someone with Aspergers would miss or is this person just willfully ignoring my calling them out? Anything else that you can add about the sort of things you might miss would also be appreciated.
29 Nov 2017, 2:42 pm
But it's what happens when I try to call them out on it that bothers me. When I pointed out that it seemed funny that they quickly developed this injury shortly after I did, and that they are saying exactly what I said, and that it seemed rather odd to me, they initially just carried on with what they were doing in a blank faced kind of way. No reaction. Not even a flicker. No amount of me saying "That's exactly what I said, How VERY odd" in the most obvious and snarky tone had any effect. They completely missed what I was getting at which was...."Is it me, or are you copying me?" While their injury could be coincidence (although it strangely changed sides
) or they could be an illness one-upper type, it's that response or indeed lack of it that catches my attention. It's actually quite typical of this person to have no reaction or strange reactions to things. There's other things as well, and I'm beginning to wonder. Like the time that they said to someone "You look really nice for once" and I had to try and explain why that was offensive while they voiced their objections of "But they did look nice for once".
Anyways, is that the sort of implied meaning that someone with Aspergers would miss or is this person just willfully ignoring my calling them out? Anything else that you can add about the sort of things you might miss would also be appreciated.
Sounds like an illness you are describing. I read this is common in BPD. They mirror people and will copy others interests and stuff. I think this comes from their lack of self image so they try and create one by mirroring people. Plus people with BPD will easily take things out of context and twist what you say to start an argument. Plus they don't like being called out on their behavior because it hurts their ego and their self image they have. Sounds a lot like narcissism.
I am not sure if the person you are describing is even normal but I can tell you this is not NT behavior. People don't act like this unless they have a mental issue. BPD is on my mind.
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