Jealous of other people in their 20s

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The reason I get this feeling of jealousy or envy of other people in their 20s is because I look at them and think they've careers, their own business, achieved great things, travelling around the world with friends and partners, a happy relationship, going to parties, got their own house and are fully satisfied and content with their lives right now and I at 29 don't have a career and don't know what to do except that feel like I want to write my own book and just working as sales assistant, still single, living back and forth in two separate homes of divorced parents and feel like I've got less time now to enjoy my life and that once you hit 30 you can't enjoy it much anymore and think more seriously and I feel people expect to me to behave differently, and that frustrates me, just look at people younger than me thinking they're better than me and they've got more time enjoy life until 30 and all now have flourishing careers and lives whereas I don't when probably should be at 29 and it also makes me look back why didn't do that and make different decisions and wasted my life. I mean I left uni at 22 and until I was 26 I had interviews for jobs and wouldn't hire me and went on employment courses to help and maybe I was being quite picky at times in finding the job in places I like, like bookshops I was a regular customer to and eventually I did get a job in a shop I frequented and been there since. But what can I do stop these thoughts of envy of other 20 year olds successes and achievements.

Why aren't you working on your book instead of comparing yourself against other people?

I work on my garden when I go home.

You probably need to try to stop comparing yourself and your path to others. Even people who seem to be thriving as far as their careers go can be unhappy or unsatisfied in some way.

Why would you enjoy life less at 30? 30 is still pretty young. Lots of people at that age don’t have things figured out yet.

It's normal to feel that way, especially if you have a low self esteem... but you seem to be making a lot of topics like this, it's like it's an obsession for you. Try to get rid of that; otherwise you might not be happy even if things do get better.

Why does it seem that WP has suddenly acquired a large population of men in their late 20s who cannot get dates, who still live with their parents, who cannot get jobs, and who worry about what other people are thinking?

It's almost as if they were all the same person...

I was wondering when someone was going to finally point this out. The OP does make a lot of these sorts of threads. I'm not criticising him though, as it's just his way of venting his feelings to other like-minded people. I do tend to read all of his threads, as I can understand how he feels, especially the threads about never going clubbing.
I just know how he feels. Most people will say "if you don't like clubbing then why are you so bothered that you don't go clubbing?" But it's not as logical as that. He's probably conditioned to feel guilty for being him. I totally understand that dilemma.