Other halves and mornings

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Hi guys,

I wanted to ask if any of you experience, or have experienced, anything similar to this.

I have a partner (no idea how because lately I can only bring myself to see her every week or two, despite the fact that in theory she is perfect for me), and she sometimes sleeps over. I have major issues with mornings with her, and it's nothing she does in particular, but I just can't deal with them. I feel awful, but I purposely force myself to sleep until she leaves for work, and if I can't do that I pretend I'm sleeping for as long as I can, because I just don't want to talk; not to her specifically, just at all. I don't know what my issue is, but I can't stand the level of physical contact she gives, or the feel of her hair on my face, and I really can't deal with the sound of her eating when she is near me, or even in the hallway; it makes me feel like I'm going to explode.

I don't know if it's because I'm so drained from socialising with her the night before, or if there are extra things that get to me in the morning, but I just feel like an awful person for feeling so irritated and uncomfortable around her so often, because she is incredible. I love her, but I don't even really miss her when I don't see her for weeks, and it crushes me when she tells me she has missed me and my mutual reply isn't totally true ):~

Just wondering if anyone else experiences anything like this, and what you do to manage it.

I like my space too.

I like my space, and I like my spaces, too.....

I tend to get up pretty early and have some time to myself, which helps (especially on weekends). But, I definitely have a similar experience after work. I don't feel like talking much, since I'm friend, and lots of things (like chewing) will drive me crazy. I've had to ask myself just how much space I need, and how I fulfill the need for connection that I have. It sounds like you may have to ask yourself the same questions. It's tough. Know yourself and have faith in yourself. I hope you find what you need.

You just need your space in the morning.

I can't say I particularly relate to your situation, especially since I've never had a partner to speak of. But I can at least tell you that there's nothing wrong with needing your space in the morning. Even I have the occasional morning when I don't want to see or speak to anyone.

Oh yeah. I can't sleep over at other people's houses. Going to sleep around other people is fine, but not waking up.
I'm glad my boyfriend moved out, because I never got any sleep when he was here. Mornings are the worst, but him being around affects my whole day. I can't really focus on anything when he's up, so I went to bed a lot later than him, just to be able get some things done. And then I always tried to get up at least three hours before he does. That's the only way I could get everything done that I was supposed to - absolutely exhausted from not getting enough sleep. As soon as he wakes up, it's like everything stops, and I'm just waiting for him to go out or go back to bed in the evening. If he wakes up before me, I won't be able to get up for a long time, and will be in a horrible mood when I finally do.
It's a shame, because it's really nice to go to sleep with him in the bed, but I just can't handle having him around in the mornings.