What's the worst thing that could happen?

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fifasy
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13 Dec 2017, 9:41 am

I sometimes feel scared of taking my trash out because I worry about bumping into the neighbours. I can't think of conversation to make with them.

My support worker asked me, "What's the worst thing that could happen?" Then asked me how likely it was anything bad would happen. She explored it a bit with me and I realised I was over thinking things, worrying too much.

So today when I took the trash out I repeated the mantra in my mind: what's the worst thing that could happen? And I never felt so relaxed as I did this.

Then I walked around town and it was quite busy, all the while I kept repeating the mantra in my head. And I coped with people being near me better than usual. So give it a try. What's the worst thing that could happen? :wink:



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13 Dec 2017, 10:53 am

fifasy wrote:
I sometimes feel scared of taking my trash out because I worry about bumping into the neighbours. I can't think of conversation to make with them.

My support worker asked me, "What's the worst thing that could happen?" Then asked me how likely it was anything bad would happen. She explored it a bit with me and I realised I was over thinking things, worrying too much.

So today when I took the trash out I repeated the mantra in my mind: what's the worst thing that could happen? And I never felt so relaxed as I did this.

Then I walked around town and it was quite busy, all the while I kept repeating the mantra in my head. And I coped with people being near me better than usual. So give it a try. What's the worst thing that could happen? :wink:


Well done! :D

I have a similar phrase I repeat to myself when I get anxiety in new situations. I have an unfortunate habit of catastrophizing when I'm anxious - so I can think of quite a lot of 'worst case' things that could occur. However, I've got enough awareness at least to recognise when I'm doing it and put some CBT principles into practice to break out of that cycle. Besides, past experience tells me that my 'worst case' usually bears no resemblance to what actually happens.



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13 Dec 2017, 11:01 am

Yep...you did a good thing, definitely.

It's true---it ain't no bullshit---

What IS the worst that can happen?



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13 Dec 2017, 4:25 pm

Toss up between Dementia and long painful death


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13 Dec 2017, 9:39 pm

Good job with that!

Though in response to your question - once when I was taking out the trash, a car drove up, and a guy jumped out and tried to chase me inside my house, and I had to literally slam the door in his face and lock it as quickly as possible. At which point he gave up and drove off. So I suppose that's my worst trash experience.

In terms of neighbors wanting to have a conversation with you - I hate that as well. But it does put it into perspective that having an awkward social interaction is better than being physically assaulted.



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13 Dec 2017, 9:51 pm

A group called "Johnny Maestro and the Brooklyn Bridge" did a song called "It's the Worst that could happen." A gigantic hit in 1969.



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14 Dec 2017, 1:16 am

For me, it's a toss up between death and taxes.


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