FKKED UP THINGS COMMONLY BELIEVED BY NTS

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My list:

1. Aim for the stars! You can do anything if you try!

2. All able bodied people can and should be self supporting.

3. All people should be happy and peppy all the time and go through life with a smile on their face.

4. Act your age.

5. Holidays and vacations should be lots of stress and work and cost way to much money, fun optional.

6. This shouldnt take all day (NTs often dont seem to get that some things DO take all day, or two days for that matter).

7. Everyone should think and act just as they do.

Ditto. I agree on all your points.

Very spot on.

Not all autistic vs. non-autistic things, but nice to have a rant anyway!...

- When a date is interested in me, I will magically "just know it."

- I would acclimatise to my sensory issues if only I would expose myself to them enough.

- I can be "talked down" from a meltdown/shutdown despite your words just sounding like abstract noises right now.

- I "need to" or "should" go out and socialise more.

- All of my negative experiences relating to other people are just paranoia.

- I must find X enjoyable because "everyone" else does.

- Making me self-conscious will transform me into an extrovert.

You're damn right - I believe in all of those.

1) This is true - it's just that too many people aim for the couch (along with a beer and a doobie) instead of improving themselves.
2) This is obvious - there's a job for everyone.
3) True - my smile is just turned upside down.
4) Act your age and not your shoe size. One of my
co - workers was acting her shoe size at the Christmas party this year by getting overly drunk and throwing up several times in the supervisors home bathroom. She also was talking non - stop about all of her sex practices and f*ck buddies. Needless to say, she's all the talk at the medication machine. She should have acted her age.
5) From experience, this is true. That's why I hate holidays and don't take vacations.
6) If something takes all day, I call it a job and I better be getting paid for it or paying someone else to do it.
7) Actually, I had to read this several times to understand it. Anyway, if everyone acted like me - it would be a perfect world. It's far from being a perfect world. Maybe there's more Aspies out there than I thought.

I think the OP is confusing American values with NT ones.

Trogluddite, I have heard all these things from NTs too. You just gotta love how NTs think they know everything. They love to say that I should trust people more and that my observations of people and their behavior towards me is all in my head.

- All your sensory issues are in your head!

- You can develop self-control and stop having meltdowns if you just try hard enough!

- Cooking/cleaning/caring for yourself is easy, and if you can't do it, you're just lazy!

- Your internal experiences don't match my internal experiences, so you're clearly wrong and/or delusional.

Hate that kinda stuff too.

But then I turn around and inflict similar stuff on others.

Actually its usually in the privacy of my own thoughts in which I brow beat others for not being able to do something that I find easy. But sometimes it's out loud to the person in question.

Like reading maps for example. I'm good at it. Cant relate to someone not being able to read a map.

If these NTs would only quit talking.

The acting your age thing drives me crazy. Why do I want to act in the way you think I should? I simply don't want to, I enjoy life way more just the way I am.

Other things that get to me:
- People should be able to read what they are thinking, and not being able to makes you deficient.
- That someone should be able to finish a conversation with a question that they don't want a answer to. What is up with this!
- That if you are not socialising you are not having fun, and OBVIOUSLY you need to be forced into socialising.
- That helping themselves is more important than helping other people/animals/anything.
- If you are obsessed with something that is unhealthy and you should stop.
- That they can get offended when they ask for an honest response and you give one.

I believe that these problems stem from a lack of understanding that NTs have about high functioning autism. Most of them just don't seem to realise that our thought patterns and behaviours aren't necessarily a choice. They seem to believe that if we try hard enough, we can change and act "normal". The problem is that we don't want to change, and it was never a choice to begin with. I guess that's just what makes us different from them, and we should embrace the differences instead of letting the NTs make us think we are any less than they are.

Let's just be like them. Saying crap to people that you don't mean. Nah. No thanks.