Mental Age Theory Hurts People with Intellectual Disabilitie

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Does being mentally a child mean not losing your curiosity and joy? Then I want to be one!
Really, adults are boring.

Depending on someone's level of retardation, I find it very insulting to just see someone as a child just because they have a intellectual level of a child and treat them as such. They want to be people too and date and get married and also have kids and have a job and have their own freedom. Not be defined by their mental age and treated as such.

My ex acted like I was intellectually slow because he would ignore me if he felt I was too immature and he didn't like my smile and how I expressed my excitement and scoffed at what TV shows I liked and what video games I played and stuff. He even connected it all to ABDL and I found it insulting and connecting my personality to it. Because he connected it to it, he said it made him feel like a pedophile and said it felt like he was with a child than with an adult. Then when I tried to give him the same taste of his own medicine by saying I don't want anything to do with him when he is like a teen and being immature like one too and watching teen shows, he called it a game. So narcissist. You can't win with these people or get them to see how flawed their logic is. They just turn it around on you and find excuses or call it a game. Another reason why I am not with him still, he was toxic and he blamed it on PTSD. Supposedly when his ex called him a pedophile it traumatized him. He sure wasn't doing anything to overcome it and why even be with me in the first place if I was such a trigger for him? But yet he had no problems acting immature with his child and no problems acting immature himself and his excuse was "I am more like a teenager, you are like a 5-8 year old."

So yep this is all insulting.

Keep in mind most people with ID's are in the high functioning range (I.Q of 60-70). You could apply the ''mind of a five year old child theory'' to someone with a moderate to severe ID but this is not the case for the majority it seems. A lot of times you can not even ''tell''.

I hate being told things about my age too. I remember when I was 15, my cousin (who was the same age as me) told me I had a mental age of a 9-year-old. That upset me.

It's no good telling me that I have a mental age of a child, because I'm a mixture of any age. I think like an elderly lady, I sometimes behave like a child when hyperactive, I sometimes behave like a teenager when having a meltdown, but I also act my own age too a lot of the time. I think my mental age is my real age, as I'm doing things others my age are doing, but sometimes I need support on some things. Actually I have no exact 'mental age' really. Depends what mood I'm in.

NTs like to think autistic people are like children. I think most NTs have the mentality of middle schoolers and high schoolers.