Let's do it together! For those who feel screwed up

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I'm going to be productive the very moment I wake up tomorrow. I'm going to take care of an important call that needs to be made despite me hating phone calls and ask a question that needs to be asked. I'm going to do all the assignments and start a new planner for time management as this makes a difference for me. I'm not going to let my inattentiveness ruin my life. Please be with me.

I'm pretty sure I have ADD and something tells me that there's too much resemblance with ASD to be a mere coincidence. I find it very hard to stay on task if the thing is not related to my obsessions. As to those obsessions, I love them and find peace in them, unlike other things that make my mind rush. I have been told I'm smarter than my peers and I know some things come naturally to me that others have trouble with. Yet here I am, secluded in my enclosure, compulsively reading about autism all day long.

I had previously other interests, like that Shantaram book or a sitcom I was so preoccupied with that I could not perform well academically and would skip lunch to sneak to the library and watch another episode, not interested much in real people.

I'm desperate and have a high chance of losing it all, but I'm not letting my innate difference make my life miserable. There's one life for me and I will do whatever it takes to achieve my goals, and I hope if I do well at Uni maybe I will have a chance to continue learning and combine things I would have learnt at Uni and those interests.

I have seen so much self-doubt and whining here on WP and I get it, but let's try. You're wonderful guys, please try to be with me. Let's support each other. I hate it when you call yourselves ugly or screwed up. I hope someone gets inspired and our life will be a little better.

“Never give up... no one knows what's going to happen next.”

- L. Frank Baum

Yep....and that "something" could lead to three more "somethings" in a short space of time.

You never know....

^Now I get it. Kraftiekortie you don't need to reply to the PM I sent you.

I am adding myself to this thread. I haven't worked since I got my PhD. Been home with kids. Whilst I think I operated ok socially in a predominately male academic environment, socialising with adult females has been very hard on me and my confidence levels with regard to social interaction. I have a meeting this week about getting fast tracked into teaching at secondary school level. My ambition would be to teach religion and philosophy for a while and then edge more into the pastoral care and the special needs department. The initial queries I made had really good responses based on my education and previous teaching experience, but I am very nervous that once they meet me they will think I am too old, too quirky, and not easy to chit chat with. So, adding myself here as I already have a strong feeling that I might cancel the meeting all together and make up some excuse to not go...... so I am with you! Going to go, going to try my best.

I join you in spirit, but not in trying to talk to people when I first wake up. I've learned that I'm not very sharp then, especially if I have been sleeping poorly in anticipation of an event. I once gave a radio interview at some ungodly hour for a live morning show east of me, and that was the only gig that didn't generate a single response. For me, mornings are self-sabotage. YMMV.

I thought the same. I should really pull myself together and call the bank on monday. But absolutely not before lunch! If I do, I'll mess it all up.

It's good to factor those things in, just don't let them prevent you from setting & meeting your goals.

In this resolution, would you be amenable to repairing that discrepancy?

OK. But I still don't want to be a moron.
What about this:
'I have a list of specific traits that people with AS also share. I don't know if I have AS. I'm a Ukrainian young woman who studies Japanese language. Don't assume I don't get the most whimsical of your writing just because I'm from Eastern Europe.
Please let me know if you have any concerns regarding anything I wrote incorrectly.'
Also, when you talk about yourself, how do you decrease the usage of ‹‹I››? Because it sounds egocentric.

I only wish I had that attitude 10 years ago....

cool

The term 'moron' used to be a technical term in the early 1900's, but began to be used as an insult as early as 1922. Even in the (now discontinued) technical sense there are very few people (5%) who meet the criteria. Sorry, you don't qualify.

There's an important distinction between self-referential grammar and egocentrism. Sometimes it's important to clarify that you're speaking on your own behalf. That doesn't make you self-centered.

However, if using "I" feels too presumptuous, there are ways around it.

For example, here are some workarounds based on your previous signature. Feel free to reject, correct or use them however you like.

-- AS probable; corrections indispensable.
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