new coworker took my chores- meltdown avoided

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today i worked with a new coworker. this is my second time working with her, i already didnt like the idea of her working at the store, i heard of her before, and on top of everything she is living on the reserve i live on and she is not native at all and insists on using someone elses number to get taxes off her cigarettes. i was already weary about working with her but the first day was fine and i calmed down a little.

today was slow due to a snow storm and there wasnt much to do so she took it upon herself to do HALF of my chores.

there are 14 chores to do, i chose 7 specific chores and i do them every shift at 8:30 in this order

Record freezer temperatures
clean coffee pot& coffee area
clean the table behind the cash
clean the sink area
change the outside garbage if needed
restock the coolers (there are 7)
Windex The cooler windows

i really really like doing these chores and i look forward to doing them everyday. BUT without asking me she took Coffee pot, behind the Cash, sink area AND windexing!!

i was especially upset about windexing the coolers for the drinks because i see the coolers as friends and kind souls, i am slightly bonded with them.

and the most upsetting thing is this. EVERYONE else KNOWS i need my chores in order, sometimes i have special deals with specific coworkers if they really hate certain chores and i can take them but they ASK first.

AND MY MANAGER TOLD THIS NEW COWORKER NOT TO TOUCH MY CHORES AND I HAVE PUT MY INITIALS NEXT TO THE CHORES I DO.

i was extremely upset. i did the chores in that order anyways but it took 45 minutes of pacing, chewing and deep breathing to calm myself down. i almost went MIA. it was very upsetting im still not 100% recovered.

but i am glad i was able to avoid a meltdown without selfharming or leaving.

tell me some work place stories that you may have that may be similar.

I think she was trying to do you a favor.

TBH in tech jobs there's no such thing as others covering most responsibility. I'd much prefer dividing tasks that way but very little work of mine is predetermined.

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I like routine on my job, too.

I get upset when my routine is disrupted. Sometimes, I even do things like bang my head against a wall.

I take issue with that, too. It's kind of funny, but when my mom or siblings are mad at me, they'll do my chores as a form of revenge. I need my routine. I won't have a meltdown unless there's a big alteration in my plans, but executive dysfunction kicks in if the smallest thing is thrown out of orbit.

I don't mind enough to get upset if someone does my jobs usually but there are exceptions. In order to do a series of things such as switching everything off setting the alarms and locking up (such as at the end of day in a shop) I have to do everything in order. If someone does one of the things they are not helping (they think they are) but it throws me out and makes it much more likely I will make a mistake. I do think sometimes people have done this on purpose because they have found my need to be systematic funny.

The worse one is not work though, it is my Mum. I will cook a roast for everyone at her house, it's not hard so long as I am allowed to do it my own way but my Mum always does something that means I have to reorganise mid flow (I can't do that) such as put the oven on before I get there at a lower temp which confuses me because I no longer know when to expect the oven to be ready. Or she takes the chicken out of its packaging which has the cooking instructions on it. Last time she turned the oven fan on in the middle. She's used to me being the f**k up, only when I cook I'm the one that gets the complements.