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A few weeks ago my uncle was doing work on my house. I was kinda trying to make conversation with my uncle and i blurted out to my uncle during a conversation with him "My house is quite a lot bigger than yours"

Apprently behind my back my uncle told my 18 year old brother about the remark i made and how he thought it was '"a bit weird" what i said. My brother confronted me about this and said to me "Those kind of remarks you make is the reason why you will never be able to take part in society"

Do you think that is true what my brother said or not?

Personally, I think that your brother was incredibly rude for saying that. Sure, remarks like the one you made could be a little awkward, but that is no reason that you wouldn't be able to be a part of society.

Well, that's rubbish. There are people who consciously choose to say rude things and they particupate in society just fine... It would have been much more helpful if he could have explained WHY it was considered a 'weird' statement.

Well even i know why it was rude or even a bit weird. I mean from my uncles perspective he might have thought that i was saying his house was not as good as mine which can annoy some people.

What was rude was your uncle going behind your back and talking to your 18 yr old brother about it. If he had a problem with your remark he should have said something to you when you made the comment.

Even ruder that your brother comforted you about it. Again if your uncle had a problem with the remark then he should have said something to you instead of your brother.

Sure your brother might be right about the comment. From your uncle's prespective it might been considered rude. But he should said something then and let you know why he considered rude. Then the two of you could straighten out the misunderstanding.

If the situation that you uncle might have been so offended that he chose to be silent instead of expressing his anger, then he could have talk to your brother to vent. But still if that was the case, it was up to your uncle to talk to you later about it when he felt calmer. Your brother was being rude talking to you about it before your uncle did.

Next time it happens just tell your brother to be quiet about it. Tell him that if your uncle has a problem with a comment you made, then your uncle should talk to you.

Anyway that is my opinon on how polite people would have handled the situation..

Your brother is wrong....rude people make it just fine in society...at least that has been my experience. Yes manners will take you further, but I never seen a person on disability income because they are rude. Becides, your brother's rudeness to you is much ruder than your innocent attempt at conversation. So according to his logic, he is more "disabled" by rudeness than you are.

Jojo

Well my brother lashed out and said to me when we were arguing about something else.

My uncle is also VERY ill since he is an alcoholic and has nearly died twice. even though my uncle is very popular around town he does have a reputation for ripping people off (including my dad) with money etc........... i think my uncle said to my brohter becasue he was concerned for my well being and my behaviour. i did ask my uncle while he was working on my house "Are you working here on monday as well" and again he got just a little bit defensive and asked me why i wanted to know because i asked similar questions to that a few times previously

A house that is bigger generally means richer or better. It was like you were demeaning him.

That doesn't mean what he said was rude or demeaning him. But because the uncle did not talk to him then the OP doesn't know why. Even his brother gave him a general statement, not the reason why the remark was bad. The uncle's house could be bigger and thinks the OP was weird for saying that comment. Maybe the uncle is concern that the OP needs glasses and his brother took it the wrong way.

Thats why it is important for people if they are offended, to speak to the person directly so there is no misunderstanding about why they where offended. For that reason it considered good manners also. Otherwise as far as I can tell the OP said nothing wrong and the uncle and brother are the rude ones. The rest is just assumptions.

Just my opinon and decide for yourself

Randomly saying "my house is bigger than yours" is rude.

Why is that rude? It just sounds like an innocent comment. Well another social rule I have just learned. Do not say your house is bigger than theirs. I bet that would apply to apartments too.

I doubt your uncle was really that offended. I think your brother is just intentionally trying to bug you, and he knew this was something that you would take personally, especially if it happened during an argument.

I have definitely said stranger and ruder things by accident, particularly when trying to make basic conversation in situations that I normally wouldn't, and have not been kicked out of society yet.

Because it's NT code for "I'm better than you."



"Innocence" and "rudeness" aren't mutually exclusive.

Don't meen to cause offence but your brother is a prick.

I myself can't see anything wrong with your statement, afterall it is just an observation, not unless it is actualy smaller than your uncles then thats wierd.

As for your brother he should know better, and what he said to you was probably ment to hurt your feelings, claiming you are incapable of socialising.
Sounds like he is a bit of a hypocrite, you were just stating a fact, he was just victimising.

Your brother is your brother.
Brothers like to tease and mock their brothers.
It happens.
Taking it to heart just gives him what he wants.

Well I just brought up the subject of my house because my uncle had done loads of work on it in the past and in the conversation i was talking about the desigin of my house. In the conversation i did bring up that my uncles house was nice and big but i think i might have just said by accident "I know my house is a bit bigger than yours" or something along those lines. I had absolutly no intention of causing him offense just trying to awkwardly make small talk.

I was also talking about the design of my uncles house and comparing it to mine and that is when i blurted it out by mistake.