Being joked with by retail workers

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I sometimes get joked with by retail workers and the situations are very awkward for me because my mind automatically thinks they are being serious when it happens. An incident that happened just a moment ago prompted me to post about this. I went in to a gas station and asked the worker at the cash register if he could break a 20 dollar bill for me. He said "No, we don't do that so the dollar's mine and have a good night." and held the dollar away from me. I just stared because even though I thought he was being serious, I also wondered if he was kidding but I just don't have an aggressive personality so I couldn't say anything. He said "Have a good night!" one more time before saying "Nah, man, I'm just f*****g with you! Don't call the cops on me!" so he was indeed joking with me. Before I left, I made a purchase and mentioned to him I am a shy person and I also have Aspergers syndrome so my brain can't always tell if someone is kidding with me or not.
I don't know if that will change anything but I felt like I had to explain myself. It feels like men in the culture I live in are expected to "take s**t" but I am not one of those men.

I would have reacted the same way if I was in your situation. There was a girl who was in my grade 7 class who was always telling me that she hated me. I took it seriously because half of my peers did hate me and they weren't shy about telling me so. She told me that I can't take a joke.

I remember my dad telling me that I have no sense of humour when I was around 11 or 12. He said something to the effect of, "Your mum has a sense of humour, your little sister has a sense of humour and I have a sense of humour, but you have no sense of humour."

My colleagues joke around all the time. In fact, you've got to be able to take a joke otherwise you won't fit in, which could be very hard for an Aspie. But I am an atypical Aspie who can naturally keep up with the banter, so I fit in rather well.

I think everybody takes one or two jokes literally at times though.

I went into another classroom at work and asked the teacher if I could borrow the laminator. She said no. I just stood there for a moment, then started to realise she might be joking, and then she changed her answer to "of course you can." There's food for perseveration for the rest of the day.

That sort of thing would likely catch a lot of people off guard including NT's. Even people who could tell it was a joke might get quite irate if they were in a hurry as it's really just messing people about. It's not very professional and shouldn't be done to customers unless they know that customer well enough to be sure it will be taken well.

I'd fit in quite nicely....in Germany. I have a German sense of humour.

I feel like there is a type of joking that begins with an absurd statement like this, but then we're supposed to pick up the joke and provide a clever punchline to it. Even if I generally know this what's going on, I can either fumble trying to come up with something clever to say, or smirk or chuckle trying to act like I know wtf they're going on about.

It's a type of banter but seems like half-assed humor to me.

I think you dealt with the situation well.

I work in a shop, I banter with the customers all the time, some get it some don't, it's fine. At the end of the day it's my responsibility to make sure the customer is happy with what's happening, so if they're not getting the joke I say sorry and smile a lot.

Fitting in is overrated anyways. I'd rather have my freedom than fit in.