Self managing impulsivity

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Today a had a massive laps in judgement when I acted on 1 particular impulse. Now its hours lately and suddenly I can see what a stupid mistake it was and I'm not even sure how to handle this new problem I've created for myself. This situation has left my feeling ashamed and embarrassed and Its going to take me a number of days just to be able to face it.

This is basically now what I'll call my own strike 3 because now I've allowed myself to react to these impulses for the third time in a few of week and in every occasion I have just shot myself in the foot. One thing that is truely worrying me is that in the past I have learnt to manage my impulses quite well and was doing so for a number of years. Why things are starting to get out of control is something need to figure out and start working on right now.

That last sh***y decision was perhaps the last size they had in the 'poor choice' section and anything beyond this and I may not even get an option for clean up afterwards. Hopefully the fact I have had control over impulses in the past, is a sign that it's a possible achievement to get back to.

I can definitely recognise that all my triggers lately have been driven by strong emotion's, but as well they sometime include an aspect of humour. Sometimes I see what I'm about to do as something thats really funny, to me at least. With the return of logic, these jokes suddenly don't seem as funny because I now some prospective I'm aware the consequences aren't a joke and I need to stop telling myself that I don't care what happens.

Some of my own idea's might include putting some reminders around the walls of my bedroom, in my head I see A4 fluro purple. These can have whatever reminders written on them and I think the biggest use they'll serve is a constant reminded because of the bright colour.

Okay that's all I have just at this moment but I might add some links I found because I need all the help and ideas I can get right now.

https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-impulse-control-social-spending/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/adhd-in-adults-5-tips-for-taming-impulsivity/

https://www.harleytherapy.co.uk/counselling/what-is-impulsivity.htm

I try to manage my impulses but have a really hard time. I'll say or do things that are harmful.

The only time I have my impulses under control are when I'm occupied or resting.

But then my impulse is to do something to occupy myself.

Okay so wrote that last post on the 12th its now the 17th, could be worse.

Had another massive wave of impulse and bad decisions hit today that nearly made me do some things that would have seriously messed with the trajectory of my life. At the time, (like usual!), I thought it was a great decision. Luckily a friend came to the rescue and suggested something that clearly a foreign concept in my brain and that was simple to wait and think about it. When I did think about it I suddenly became aware of the bigger picture.

Kinda pissed at my own brain that these solutions that are so simple they are basically childlike, yet my brain is unable to see/think past that one single impulse.