People Hate Me Cause I'm Ugly

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... or something. I get so much negativity from so many different people all the time for some reason? It has to be cause of the way I look. People that I have never even talked too act like they want to fight me or something. It's a wide spread problem but to give you an idea what I mean from a couple of people in my immediate area. The Italian d-bag that lives in the apartment above me with his hot little Asian girlfriend... every time I see this fricken guy, usually in the parking lot, he tenses up and puts his tough guy face on. I've tried to say hi to him but he won't make eye contact. Sometimes I'll hear people outside and I'll peek through the window and see him out there all smiley face kissing everyone's ass... but the second I appear he switches to butthole mode. WTH! It kind of pisses me off cause it happens all the time and there's no valid reason for it. I've probably had about 8 - 10 different encounters with this chump in the last 4 years. Lame! Then there's the goofy white guy next door with the super hot little Spanish girlfriend. Same deal... our paths cross and he'll instantly act like he's ready to fight?!? WTH! Man! I saw him and his cute girlfriend at the grocery store the other day and he said to his girlfriend, "Hey, there's your boyfriend.", in a sarcastic way. He probably didn't think I'd hear him cause I was in my car driving by but.. I had sunglasses on and was looking right at the both of them when he said it and I was like reading his lips too and it matched a muffled, "hey, there's your boyfriend." So who know's? I think they probably think I'm trying to bang there girlfriends or something, which would be ridiculous.. but awesome at the same time but still, it would never happen. I'm 50 fricken years old. Ya.. when ever I cross paths with the girls I always say hi. Just a short little friendly "how ya doin neighbor". And they always respond with friendly appropriate responses. It sucks and I get s**t like this all the time, on top of all the other s**t I have going on all the time. It's kind of draining. Anyway.. I just had to vent that out a little. I feel better now. Thank You

If the fellas feel threatened by you, maybe they figure you're good looking enough to draw their girlfriends' attention. They also sound incredibly immature, which may actually be the issue exclusively.

Are they doing this posturing only when their girlfriends are around to see how "macho" they are?
I'm not too sure how to deal with that.

Yah.. they do it with or without their girlfriends present. It's pretty lame. Here I am.. this friendly guy, just trying to mind my own business and either, walk to the store or get in my car, and I get all this negativity just because they're uncomfortable with something. Somebody told me once that I look mean until I start talking. They said the voice don't match the look. Ah.. ok. I've been accused of appearing intelligent too and apparently that also intimidates people. When I first moved in here, the second day I was here a different guy next door saw me outside after my cable guy left and he say's, "You should give me your password for your wireless internet." LOL! WTF! Who is this fricken guy?!? So I told him I'll give it to him for $20 bucks a month. He was like... , "Nah." Then after that, every time I crossed paths with him he'd be Mr. silent non-responsive jerkface, grunting in response to my friendly how ya doin's. Pfft! Then.. I started to notice these clumps of dirt appearing on my bicycle that I leave locked up outside. WTH is this? After closer inspection I determined that it's not dirt but actually the contaminated waste from someone who chews tobacco and has apparently been going out of their way to unload their bolus of fricken nastiness on my bicycle. Totally unacceptable! It took me about 4 months to figure out who was doing it and of course it turned out to be the same idiot that wanted me to provide him with free internet access. I saw the idiot through my peep hole spitting his chewing tobacco on my bicycle. WTF! I was fricken pissed. I couldn't confront him cause I have some impulse control issues and it probably wouldn't have ended well for either of us. But really though... WTH is this crap? Fricken Florida.. it could have something to do with me being from Boston and now living in Florida? They seem to be mad about the Civil War still.

It sounds like they're all insecure, immature doofuses. The last time I dealt with people like that I had to wait until we graduated high-school to be rid of them.

Although I agree with the posters, I may offer another explanation. These guys are by no means the gold standard of adult male behavior quite the opposite in fact.
I was told by a friend on Facebook that I was quiet and intense. I was taken aback. That might come off as violent and challenging. I never smiled and always seemed angry. I was not trying to appear as such.
You may be appearing the same even though you jad no intention to do so.

Quiet and Intense ... you're probably right about that with me also. I actually had two different people who didn't know each other, at different times, insinuate that I'm the type of person that would go on a shooting spree. How fricken rude and insulting is that?!? Damn! That was pretty hurtful to hear. I've also been accused of being gay, usually from gay people who eventually made passes at me, only to be turned down... then they would end the friendship and turn deviant towards me. Pfft! LOL! I'm a bit on the quirky eccentric side and it might come off as a little fruity or something so it attracts sexual predators. Definitely not gay though.
I've also heard people say that I bring out the worst in people. WTH would cause that? It seems accurate though.

Well that is proof you're not too ugly. The gay guys didnt know necessarily that you were gay, they were hoping. They just found you cute. They saw that you were not interested and they moved on, the nest thing really. That is what guys do. Who are these people make insulting remarks to you? Are these friends? If not, ignore them. I know easier said than done. But it is the only way.

It sounds like you make a better impression than you think
Do you project mystery and sensitivity when you are around unfamiliar women? I do that and get into all sorts of trouble

If you were John of Gaunt, I think people would like you better....

He wasn't really a "looker," by the way.

Seriously, I have found that people, in general, don't care about a person's looks if the person acts reasonably.

oh ya.. about the people who said I'm the shooting spree type. Both of them were who I thought were friends each with their own special version of mental going on so... I did consider the source. They're just dumb people misinterpreting me. It was still hurtful though. It's bad enough when one person says it to a group of people, but two. Sheesh!

I don't want people to think I came here to promote my lousy youtube channel, so I deleted that post with the link.

I'm going to lay this out for you with my actual being a girl.

Case 1: "Quiet and intense" sometimes comes across as creepy and judging by your calling the girls "hot" and "little", the boyfriends have either heard your remarks or interactions and are trying to warn you off their girlfriends as more of a safety than insecurity thing. I'm not trying to attack you but I don't plan on stroking your ego like the other males who have responded.

Case 2: They potentially do consider you a threat or they've identified your interactions as those of romantic interest or know that you're not terribly friendly with guys, judging by that wireless internet anecdote.

Case 3: The previous posters may be correct but you already knew you weren't ugly -if you were people would tell you as much.

Girls sometimes look for “lookers.” So do men.

Most people go beyond looks, though.