Just move to Maryland

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I am so sick and tired of people telling me to just move to Maryland because the Autism services there are better. First of all, I can't just move to anywhere. I don't have the resources to just move. It's not that easy. I have moved all my life. I know what it takes to move. I know what it takes to sell a house and look for another place to live. I know what it takes to get an apartment and to buy a house. Why do people think I can just get up and move like I have unlimited resources to do so. If I had the ability to move to a better situation, I would have already.

And secondly, I have looked into Autism resources in Maryland and I don't know that I would be better off there than I am where I am now. As far as I know, and please correct me if I am wrong, Maryland does not even have an Autism waiver for adults. The only Autism waiver that I have seen for Maryland is for Autistic people who are 2-21 years old and the waiting list is even longer than it is where I live now. At least, where I live now, I am on a waiting list for an Autism waiver for actual adults. I would have the same job struggles that I have here and the same issues with sensory sensitivities that I have here. I would have those issues no matter where I lived. And I am not guaranteed to get disability or SSI there either. And housing costs much more there than it does where I live now. That is why we left Maryland in the first place. I lived in Maryland for 19 years. I was not diagnosed then but the reason we had to move to where I live now is that we could no longer afford apartments or a house in Maryland because they were just too expensive. So I sure as heck am not going to just move back there. How do people expect me to afford to live down there while I am waiting to see if I am going to get any services over there? And what if I can't qualify for assistance to pay for any of these services? What will I do then? My mortgage now is under $400 a month. Do people really think that I can just up and move to Maryland and all of a sudden all my Autistic needs will just be met by pixie dust? I am so sick and tired of people suggesting things that I should do. Maybe they should do some research or give it more thought before they throw out suggestions.

Here is another one of my favorites, "Have you ever thought of earplugs?" NO, In 51 years that thought has never crossed my mind. Sometimes I just want to slap people. I tell you I think we are some of the most self controlled people in the world for not slapping the people that tell us these things. I know they mean well and that they are only trying to help but I can only hear so much of it. Makes me want to scream, I get so frustrated hearing this sort of thing.

Why not try Delaware? Lol

Seriously......I understand very well most people can’t up and move.

To advocate that someone just move is absurd.

If my wife threw me out, Id have to live in my car.

Don't waste your time with people like that. They are stupid af.

Kraftie, nah we don't want you living in your car with those brutal NYC winters.

The people giving you these crazy suggestions must be out of touch with reality.

I know where you’re coming from.

I think that sometimes people think we’re stupid just because we’re different/have ASD.

Moving is very expensive and stressful.