NT Parents Only Invest In Their NT Daughter

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Yeah my NT sister acts like she is the only child as she is treated as such.

Parents naturally prefer the NT child it seems.

My older brother was highly preferred. I was really bothered by it. We are grown adults now and it’s the same way. Im really separated from my family though. We are about 7 miles away and we really only see each other on certain holidays.

My folks liked having someone to brag about......

It’s always good to invest in yourself.

It’s nice for people to have esteem for you—but I certainly don’t rely on it.

Kraftie, I always relied on myself but that doesn't mean I don't think about what it might have been like to have a family.......

Yeah...I think about that, too.

I had a family....but I was sort of the “mental” one. My brother was a total ass most of the time.

My father was good to me....but I knew he didn’t think I was “all there.”

My mother was the “tough love” type.

I don't really say much to my folks or sister.....we are like acquaintances.

Sometimes that's just how it rolls.

My parents treated my sisters like they could do nothing wrong, and even blamed their misbehavior on me!

Now they're coming to me asking for help. Why not go ask mom?

Fnord, your siblings need to figure stuff out like you had to.

I totally agree. Let them figure out what it is like to be "called out" and blamed for something someone else did.

In my case, I set boundaries a few years back hence the acquaintances type relationship. Being the responsible person doesn't guarantee you will be liked....just means people will want you to clean up their messes. Just say NO.

Being the responsible person guarantees....that you will be responsible.

That's the way I like to look it at.

I try to be amiable----but when that doesn't work, I don't sweat it.

I try to stay classy, and above the fray.

Kraftie, you have to know that responsible people are the ones others,want to count on when the going gets tough. I simply chose not to be available.......I'm not in the fray. I don't live near any relatives.

I had an NT brother and sister. Same story. They could do no wrong.
From the time I was born to the time my parents each died I was the lesser, excluded, much less gven, much less loved. Isnt it the way of humanity to push aside and abandon those who are perceived as different since they represent weakness in the species?(even if they are not truly weak)

People love to think we are so evolved and civilized but I don't believe we have evolved, just concealed our horribleness better.

Humanity is little more than a collection of poo-flinging monkeys who have learned to dress themselves and use fire. Monkeys will also reject offspring who are 'different' -- sometimes the parents will even kill and eat an offspring that isn't quite right.

Fnord, quite true. We really aren't any better than any of the other life forms....just sophisticated s**t throwers.