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Blue Thunder
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24 Aug 2018, 1:17 pm

I crave deep relationships with people, but do not know how to connect. Small talk is meaningless, I want to talk about deep topics. If I am having fun, I long for people to be fully engaged and not bogged down by whatever else is on their mind. I'm so perceptive, so sensitive, and I freeze up with people. I am glad to be in a community that has free food, free swimming, and other free things "The Day of Play" by our Parks Department tomorrow. I really want to have fun with others, but if my mind just freezes up around people I don't know then I might as well stay home by myself. Isolated surrounded by people, but lacking the relationships I long for. I'm sure people on this forum can relate.



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24 Aug 2018, 1:20 pm

Blue Thunder wrote:
I crave deep relationships with people, but do not know how to connect. Small talk is meaningless, I want to talk about deep topics. If I am having fun, I long for people to be fully engaged and not bogged down by whatever else is on their mind. I'm so perceptive, so sensitive, and I freeze up with people. I am glad to be in a community that has free food, free swimming, and other free things "The Day of Play" by our Parks Department tomorrow. I really want to have fun with others, but if my mind just freezes up around people I don't know then I might as well stay home by myself. Isolated surrounded by people, but lacking the relationships I long for. I'm sure people on this forum can relate.

Try to find online friends if you can't make offline friends. Or try to go to meetups and meet people you like on wrongplanet and hang out with them just some ideas.


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24 Aug 2018, 5:04 pm

Blue Thunder wrote:
I crave deep relationships with people, but do not know how to connect. Small talk is meaningless, I want to talk about deep topics. If I am having fun, I long for people to be fully engaged and not bogged down by whatever else is on their mind. I'm so perceptive, so sensitive, and I freeze up with people. I am glad to be in a community that has free food, free swimming, and other free things "The Day of Play" by our Parks Department tomorrow. I really want to have fun with others, but if my mind just freezes up around people I don't know then I might as well stay home by myself. Isolated surrounded by people, but lacking the relationships I long for. I'm sure people on this forum can relate.


It's tough. I like Meetup.com, but not sure if I have great advice. Just saying I can completely relate. I often feel like books are the conversations I want to have with people. If only it were more like that.



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24 Aug 2018, 5:06 pm

I feel and want those things also but I have no idea how to do them



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24 Aug 2018, 7:11 pm

I gave up on offline friendships years ago. I can't even maintain an offline friendship for any longer then a year. Online friends however are alot easier to come by and the connections last alot longer. I got people I've been talking to online for over 5 and 10 years.