Do any of you hate it when people suggest making new friends

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I find it infuriating and I feel livid when people do it. I have mental health issues and I know I would probably end maybe phoning new called friends when I'm angry at someone else. I think people shouldn't always assume that everyone can make friends and keep their thoughts to themselves. I do ok with the friends I have and I would rather make more money than have new friends if I had to choose.

Who is suggesting you make new friends and why are they suggesting it?

I have one true friend in my life, and that's my wife and I'm her one true friend. Other than that we have acquaintances but they're not friends. I haven't had another true face to face friend in 18 years. I'm totally fine with it. Many I think wouldn't believe that and would instead think I'm just saying that. Not true.

I'm actually freaking sick of people assuming making friends is a good idea for me. My psych nurse suggested it to me, a leader of a asperger women's group and a volunteer is a special Olympic group. I'm mentally sick of it!

My parents used to say that to me a lot because they felt I was spending too much time alone in my room. Part of the reason was because I couldn't drive due to a low vision disorder & we lived in a rural area with no public transportation. My parents griped when I wanted or needed a ride most any where. I tried to explain how I couldn't make offline friends party cuz of that & I was just told that I needed to make friends so my parents wouldn't have to be my personal chauffeur. Talk about a catch 22.

Yes because i'm happy with the friends i've got. My friends also have aspergers and we hang out as often as it suits us and that's enough for me. My parents often doesn't think that's enough and that I am alone too much which I can agree with sometimes but it still annoys me because i'm very bad at making friends so I don't like to try. So much effort goes into getting to know a completely new person and learning if you can trust them and if you're really compatible and I don't have the energy for it. Plus my aspergers friends i've very much met very randomly not by actively seeking out other aspies so most of the time when I go online to find friends I meet NTs and even though some of them are cool they don't quite understand me and I can sense that and it makes me upset.

I hate being told that there's something wrong with me because I don't want friends. That said, rather than getting annoyed about it, I just tell the person in question to get lost.