Would You Take a Course to Learn Social Skills?

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Such a course would probably be good for me, but I don't see topics to get me started. All my life, I have found very little room between boring and scary. Now, there's a lot more scary, but still few people in between. I have not practised my social skills much lately, but I'm told they are generally fine. If I feel the need, I can keep small talk going with most people, but I'm not actually interested, partly because I can't imagine other minds well, but mainly because I think they are wasting their lives.
Many people may need lessons in how to contact people immersed in their 'phones. It probably isn't polite to throw a cloth over it. Personally, I also have trouble over only being willing to eat when there are no dead animals around. Given that I understand cows better than most people understand me, I find most meals dreadfully insensitive.

Sure I'd go for a class like that. Like many others have echoed I am somewhat skeptical. However if you can explain how you did it in concrete terms that are directly applicable and if you could be precise about the situations each of your skills applies to that is what is needed to get through to this audience. If you are going to describe things in abstract terms, then make sure you define each term to a really deep level. Being on the spectrum my issue is that I can't follow you if you get too abstract and it just piles on that I am a bigger loser than I thought. Please don't take others criticism too harshly - I think they'd like to see you suceed, I know I would. Chin up and get it done!

Is the course accredited?

Are the instructors certified to teach?

Is the school licensed to do business?

It would be useful that way when my folks try to push me into going to a church group then I wouldn't run the risk of embarrassing myself by saying the wrong thing ...

The general problem here is that we are trying to substitute IQ for EQ, and it just isn't as fast at those jobs. Various situations have left me confused for years before a simple explanation occurred to me. I'd want general principles, not lists of rules to follow.

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I thought about this question and my answer is , yes and no. Yes because I want to socialise and expand my social skills but no, I want to avoid certain people, especially if they're not the type of people i'd mix with. Also, to be brutally honest, since the world seems to be going mad in this day and age, I want to avoid people more so too. Conflicting.

I would be curious about it, at least. I find it hard to learn more "meta" topics, like how relationships develop, different social norms across different groups, the meaning behind things like small talk, etc. There's a lot of information already on things like posture and eye contact.

But the main purpose of the course would be to get you to accept the idea that you have a defect, disorder, difference, rather than to help you understand that you have been living in a state of persecution. It is just like Religion and Recovery, turn the issue back onto the survivor.

And the course would be unrealistic, telling you that just by playacting that you can restore your social and civil standing.

Richard

I would, as long as I'm not required to write research papers. I'm essentially taking such courses right now in college, one in communications and one for office relations. I'm writing about two papers per week. Life is so stressful right now and I just don't excel at these things. But I wanted to take them and have learned very valuable things. I like to challenge myself mentally and socially. I certainly don't think learning things I didn't know before makes me a dummy.

I knew an ex-military officer who told me that he and dozens of his cohorts were sent to "charm school" and that he was quite pleasantly surprised at how well it worked. I guess I was too, although I hadn't known him before. Lots of people could use such a course, but Aspies probably need a lot of basics that others start with. We are also probably more diverse in our needs. I remember reading a book about development stages, and had missed most of them.

I couldn´t keep a vast set of rules in my head - and keep breathing.....but I would like to know how to read if I am welcome or not and for how long....

If it's accredited and real, I may take it just for the heck of it. See how foreigners do it. Or at least foreign aspies might do it.
If not, if I'm bored enough, maybe.

I've watched a lot of (local) NTs on improv and translated things from there, and tons of written accounts of aspergian coping mechanisms across the net.
I just had a lot of data to work with, and I've yet to translate the most of it.

Doesn't hurt if I acquire more data from another, formal or informal. Who knows which terms and concepts I may stumble across from it?

But that's just me and my own case alone.





While a side of me questions; on which culture is this based on? But that's usually my main question if I were only to take account of my own case.

If I were to take account cases other than mine;
How about those that are easily thrown as 'hopeless cases' regardless the 'functioning level'?
How about those with insensitivities who may need to stim to remind where their body is? Significant comorbids aside from sensitivity and anxiety, like speech and motor issues? Some may required professional therapists instead of, say, model instructors or beauty workshops.
How about those whose tones don't exists? And how does one teach those with language issues 'articulation' beyond scripting? I'm sure the part where speech is practiced likely requires professional speech therapist instead of language tutor who partially works on accents.
How about those with learning disabilities? One had to work with several profiles too, different terms and mediums to work with.
And more countless things, like, would it exclude those with severe comorbidities and would likely only works with aspies of certain profiles?

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it is my considered opinion that each of your social skills points-

- Eye contact
- Voice tone modulation
- Facial expressions
- Mitigating anxiety
- How to initiate and keep a conversation going indefinitely
- Asking good questions and actually listening
- Small talk
- Disguising ticks and stimming so as not to draw unwanted attention
- Leveraging your autistic traits to become interesting and popular instead of weird and unattractive
- Speaking clearly
- Handling sensory issues
- Identifying toxic individuals, energy vampires, and psychopaths and avoiding them
- Clothing style (this actually matters socially)
- Physical fitness, posture, and basic nutrition (this actually matters socially)
- Initiating contact with the opposite gender
- Making and keeping friends
- Traveling abroad as an autistic person--

is a school course in itself, each interacts with the other in manifold and not-always predictable ways- and that to learn down cold their totality is not practically possible for anybody not on the gifted end of the IQ bell curve.

There are a few of those I would love to learn how to properly execute. I have never been able to engage in meaningful eye contact without also fidgeting or glancing around vicariously. Small talk and general body language never came naturally to me. My middle son seems to have the same struggles, and he is also considered gifted. He looks like he is pain every time someone takes a picture of him. He said he just doesn't understand why he should smile if he has no reason to smile. And, honestly, I get that. However, I feel like I am not doing him any kindness with my own lack of social skills.