Anyone else’s family never bothered?

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Diagnosed with ASD almost 5 years ago. Parents assisted with the diagnostic process.

As of now, it seems like my mother only skimmed the first google search result, and my father never did any research at all. They don’t seem interested when I try to explain. They just know I get some extra support at school.

They can list some symptoms, but they don’t connect it with real life. For example, my mother can list noise sensitivity as a symptom, but the other day she got mad at me for freaking out when her phone rang unexpectedly.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m glad to have a diagnosis that I can use to get some support if needed. Just not at home, it seems.

my family denied my autism diagnosis for ten years and they still haven't bothered to learn anything about it other than it "makes him shy".

Some people are not psychologically minded. Try not to blame them for what they just don't have the ability to be. Appreciate them for the things they can be and do for you, and don't hold your breath waiting for them to be something they can't.

It never gets mentioned but the worst that I have to deal with is trying to interpret the flow of their conversation, which, to me, is full of non-sequiturs and extraneous info. It's a bit weird that it's never acknowledged but I have three younger relatives who are autistic and we all take that into account and keep them happy.
I keep any difficulties to myself and as far as they are concerned, I'm happy on my own, pursuing my narrow interests.

That is why I never told my family. It won't change a thing. They would still view me as 'difficult' and telling them won't make me fit in or change it that they all like me more at all. My dad is clearly, very high functioning ASD and he has no idea, he's 80. If I ever told him that he was on the spectrum and that I was as well, he would have a FULL blown meltdown and say it is complete nonsense and that I was trying to start trouble and that there is nothing wrong with us. Yeah, so not going to say a thing. I just observe the behavior and it is actually interesting to secretly evaluate him.

My relatives don't know. I wouldn't tell them, anyway. Mom thought she was filling out another form for my security clearance. My sibs probably couldn't care less whether I lived or died, since they did nothing for my when I was homeless, either.

I wish I could trust them.

I'm not diagnosed, but I wouldn't tell anybody about it. I would stand to lose a lot if I told anyone.

I read my full assessment to my Mum and her husband when I was first diagnosed and I thought she was listening

but she really only took in what she wanted to hear, high functioning, and not the fault of the mother . My Dad

has done no research at all, he can't even get the word autistic right. My sister doesn't know because she cut me out

of her life four years ago when I stopped being useful to her. She was the first person to mention autism to me

about 15 years ago. She said 'you're an Asperger, that's why you don't have any feeling and you only think about

yourself'. If I let my Dad tell her now, she'll just feel she was right all along, assuming he tell her autistic rather

than artistic, he doesn't seem to know the difference.

Families you have to laugh, but only because you're not aloud to murder them.

Family; the other f word. I say that with tongue in cheek as most of my family is pretty understanding.