Worrying that age 30 is middle age

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I seem to think that when you're 30 and over you are not considered young anymore and that you have to think more seriously about life and not have as much fun as you did in the 20s. Should I have to change my behaviour ? its a bit like when I was told before I was 13 to stop going to a jungle jim for kids. Why is being 30 seen by people as though they've hit middle age like over 40 and 50 ? In a lot of definitions its seen as young but some say it isn't which somehow upsets and worries me, some say young until you're over 35. I can't seem to see mid to late 30s being young ages. I also seem to think if you're a film actor you have to stop playing characters in films as a young person at that age. Olivia Newton-John was 30 when she did Grease. Why can't a person in the 30s play a character who is still a student or someone ?

Middle age has various definitions that are mostly arbitrary. My favorite is "The age at which you can no longer risk arrest for having sex with a person half your age." This puts the beginning of Middle Age at about 36 years old.

I didn't get to have a whole lot of fun in my 20s so I guess I don't have that same existential conundrum. Turning 30 for me was scary but overwhelmingly I felt cheated of my youth, rather than moving slowly away from some kind of fun, liberated fresh time. I never really got to enjoy my teenage years or twenties.

I figure it's good to gain experience and that's one good thing about getting older, 30s and beyond.
Better to embrace it than not. Teenagers are fairly tiresome. Surely it's better to be beyond that?? Maybe not for everyone.

It's not yet middle aged. It's not super young. It's the youngest you'll be before being middle aged. Bear that in mind and use the time wisely, I guess.
That can be hard, though.

But sure, aging wise it's all downhill from 30 onwards. I've started using anti-aging cream already for crows feet and my brow. I just turned 31.

Why do you keep starting new threads about age? It seems like you're obsessed.

I'm only 28 but i'm dreading turning 30

There are people my age who have kids that are starting college. And I still have no career, no savings, and no family.

I've failed in every aspect of life.

I wish that was all I had to worry about.

I am not really bothered by age. I feel old and young at the same time anyway.

I also stopped caring about where i am compared to others. Never wanted kids, still don't.

The way i see it, the best is yet to come.

uniqueUsername, I love your avatar.

What's so terrible of being 30 anyway? I'll be 30 in less than two years. You can't stop time and age, and it is best to enjoy it while you're young (which you still are), because in another 40 years time you will be getting old and you will become slow and frail, and you'll wish you could be 30 again.

I remember my dad didn't want to be 50 when his 50th birthday was coming up. Now he's 61, and I bet he wishes he was 51 instead.

I think I'll rather be 30 than 20, because peer pressure is worse when you're 20 because people expect you to be out partying, and you feel socially isolated if you're not, despite the many other ways you can socialise that does not involve alcohol and nightclubs. Although the peer pressure is still there at 30, you start to not care so much and the older you get the more socially acceptable it is to not bother about peer pressure so much.

I don't have a problem with my age in and of itself. My problem is that I have yet to accomplish any of the milestones everyone else I know did at a much younger age.