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08 Dec 2018, 7:32 am

My shrink just sent me this:
what guarantees unhappiness



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08 Dec 2018, 10:18 am

This is a good list.

What do they mean by living as a "non-failure?" Does this have to do with perfectionism?

I agree on the part about "there's always time." Sometimes, there isn't. I saw myself go from being a child to a middle-aged woman without really growing up in between, except to get my education, which only led to an accumulation of facts, not anything productive. I hope to change that before it's too late.

Many items on this list could have an opposite extreme as well. The opposite of complete self-censorship could be someone who has no filter between brain to mouth. That doesn't seem like a good thing, either.



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08 Dec 2018, 5:06 pm

I don't agree with number 8. I've been living in a daydream my whole life & that makes me happy/happier. Sometimes we really need to escape reality for our own mental health.
I don't really agree with 21 either. Lots of us on the spectrum NEED to push against the natural flow of things in order for us to be our true selves instead of putting on a facade or buying into mainstream media & other things on that list.


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08 Dec 2018, 5:14 pm

nick007 wrote:
I don't agree with number 8. I've been living in a daydream my whole life & that makes me happy/happier. Sometimes we really need to escape reality for our own mental health.

I think what guarantees unhappiness is if the daydream becomes more important than real life. I agree with you completely that escape is essential, especially when life is hard.


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08 Dec 2018, 5:21 pm

I disagree with like half of it.


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08 Dec 2018, 5:38 pm

overthinking is number 1 enemy of happiness


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08 Dec 2018, 6:14 pm

nick007 wrote:
I don't agree with number 8. I've been living in a daydream my whole life & that makes me happy/happier. Sometimes we really need to escape reality for our own mental health.

Same here.
i don't plan on waking up anytime soon either.


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08 Dec 2018, 7:02 pm

There is one important thing missing. Thinking to much about negative things that you can't even change. Even the smallest negative things become bigger and bigger within your imagination then. It's a thing that makes people depressive. :)


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08 Dec 2018, 7:58 pm

Sounds like something for normal people. I can be happy shopping for clothes online with a cat in my lap! :D



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10 Dec 2018, 1:37 am

While some are accurate, some are highly inaccurate for me, and just reaffirms my notion that psychology is based on NTs and could very well have the opposite effect on (some of) us.


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10 Dec 2018, 5:27 am

Here's a funny book on how to be unhappy, called The Situation is Hopeless, But Not Serious:

https://www.amazon.com/Situation-Hopeless-Serious-Pursuit-Unhappiness/dp/0393310213/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1544437555&sr=1-1&keywords=the+situation+in+hopeless+but+not+serious