Do those of you living with parents in late 20s+ consider?

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From where I live, it's very different.
Living with parents at age 40+, even with high pay job, married and with children -- heck, with grandchildren, is no surprise.
Sure, even said successful child could move out alright -- and be their parents' neighbor.

Having to live with parents doesn't have to involve the child lacking independence or even capacity.
It's usually the other way around here; the children who gets to stay with their parents takes care of their elderly parents, grandparents, and the disabled in the household.
And this is the role I'd voluntarily take, socially expected or not. This is pretty much my 'next step' at all.

If my parents are no longer here? I plan to move out far, far away alone. That's all I know so far. If I cannot do that, then I volunteer to take care the closest elderly relatives, along with those who had been taking care of them. Or move in with my sister, solely for the sake of making others stop worrying about me.

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I have been consistently looking for ways to better my situation, employment wise. So far, I haven't been successful in terms of upward mobility, but I keep trying. I wonder, however, if I need to use a different tactic.

You might try a smaller company which is more flexible with regard for hiring and promoting decisions. Where I work we have the usual data entry and sales positions. But, we do promote people if they can demonstrate solid writing writing skills. One lady started at the bottom and moved to one of top positions. She no longer works in a cubical and now works in her own office. We have to do this because our pay doesn't look that great. Though it isn't that bad if you factor in the benefits package.

Two part timers can be cheaper if they don't have to pay for health insurance and other benefits they pay full timers.

Being able to write professionally is a special skill that most people don't have. A professional meets deadlines with correctly written copy.

Autism is a developmental delay and even though I work harder than most people I know, certainly most people my age (I don't do holidays or take time off), my lines of work don't pay. I tried the conventional way and I had a breakdown.

Financially I'm super lucky as an only child. We have a holiday house which we rent out and will have its mortgage paid off in five years, so then I'll have a house of my own. I'm very grateful for this gift. Being middle class helps a lot.

In terms of the sort of life skills you need to live alone, I'm already developing them. It might not always look like gourmet cooking but I do make my own meals, clean up after myself, do my own (and the family) laundry etc.

Most of my benefit at the moment goes to rent or food so it's not like I'm acting like a kid. I'm a lodger. It just happens that my mother is my landlady.

Not even sure you're including me in this, since you said 'if mental disabilities hold you back' but you're on an autism forum so I don't think you're including autism in that. I'm also held back by social anxiety (a real diagnosis not some excuse).

I’m 28 and moved into a studio flat in September.

However, I quit my job in October and as a consequence I’m struggling somewhat with my finances.

Whilst I welcome the opportunity to have my own space, I do find that I’m spending about 70% of my time back at my mother’s house. I’m finding that I become rather bored in my tiny flat and unfortunately my two degus aren't as sociable as my mother’s dog.

However, if I were to return to my mother’s, I fear that I would stay there for the foreseeable future.

It’s difficult for me to discern what I want out of life. I’ve become rather withdrawn and ‘burnt out’ after spending the past few years trying to masquerade as a NT. It’s truly draining.

I was just thinking how difficult it would be for me to do certain things if I found myself completely alone. I think of all the things others do easily, and it seems overwhelming. But then, years ago, I couldn't imagine myself functioning even as well as I do now.

This is intensely embarrassing, but I currently share an apartment with my mom, until I'm able to find work in a nearby territory;which, in fact there are several places that I find more appealing as well, I've lived on my own several years ago, just medical health issues resulted in my current situation, though at this juncture, I now have that under better management. I feel every single autistic person has her/her own difficulties either in the past or present in terms of living situations, yet nothing is permanent.

A 1 bedroom apartment is $1137 / month where I live. I make $1400/month in disability. I pay over $300/month in meds. I would need money for food and utilities on top of that. That is on top of having autism and being chronically ill. Wait lists for subsidized housing were 3 to 5 years prior to the housing crisis, I cant imagine how long the wait lists are now. I don't expect to outlive my parents anyway. You may call it "excuses" I call it "reasons" why I am not independent.

I currently live with a couple who are parent like figures to me (long story short they're my late fiance's parents) I have an apartment I'm in the process of moving into (we're taking it slow, I stay a few nights a week) the idea of moving out completely kind of terrifies me, mostly because of the large change in routine but I know it has to be done someday. My current boyfriend would love for us to live together and I'd like to make that happen for him sometime in the near future.

It is somewhat embarrassing, being 27 and not feeling comfortable living on my own. Then again I rarely feel like I'm 27.

Well its hard to move out if you have no job, and no income, and even if you have a low income it would be still hard. But what if you are unable to get a job?

I can't legally manage my own finances so being independent is impossible for me. I leaved for 1~2 years by myself but was to lonely. When my mom dies I'll probably move in with my aunt or with my brothers family if my Fiance hasn't gotten her comic published and making enough for us to move in together. Worst case I go back to an assisted living home.