Can you read people's expressions in thier eyes?

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02 Dec 2018, 1:25 am

Genuine question, do you have the ability to look people in the eye and read their expression?

I've found despite having social difficulty being an aspie. I can usually tell generally through expression how someone is reacting in the most basic sense emotionally. Although, I can't always tell why or for what reason right away. Often it takes me alot of time well after to realize. Still I ask because I have a friend with fetal alcohol syndrome who told me he can't read people at all, and I believe him since I've witnessed just how unaware he truly was. I find that crazy, and feel kind of sorry for him sometimes, it must be rough navigating socially without having any idea. What are your thoughts?



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02 Dec 2018, 1:46 am

Even when I can look into someone's eyes for long enough to glean any info without looking creepy, generally it doesn't help me read them. Or when I can look into their eyes at all.


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02 Dec 2018, 1:55 am

I get literally nothing from eye contact at all. It is just both over whelming, and feels like you're staring into a deep void of Lights and intruding on someone or like someone's walking in on you naked. It's really uncomfortable and a little painful. I can fake effectively however by looking at the bridge of the nose. I don't always bother, one of the many uses for sunglasses.


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02 Dec 2018, 2:13 am

Yeah generally my eyes are darting around just so I don't have to look into their eyes. Generally people either don't notice or don't bring it up, but there's a few people out there who will be really insistent on eye contact and it's really hard to deal with them.


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02 Dec 2018, 2:33 am

jamthis12 wrote:
Yeah generally my eyes are darting around just so I don't have to look into their eyes. Generally people either don't notice or don't bring it up, but there's a few people out there who will be really insistent on eye contact and it's really hard to deal with them.

I don't think anyone noticed at all for me until I was diagnosed. But there always have been a few insistent people, really don't know why someone would be insistent on having someone stare straight into their eyeballs.


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02 Dec 2018, 3:10 am

I get discomfort in the form of a strong urge to look away when I look into peoples eyes.


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02 Dec 2018, 6:51 am

I avoid eye contact because they're saying one thing with their voice but through their eyes I can feel all of their underlying emotion, which may not have anything to do with what they're talking about. It's too much information to process.



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02 Dec 2018, 7:08 am

If the expression is a genuine reflection of how they feel. Any kind of mask or etiquette or incongruity between what they feel and what they say, then not at all.



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02 Dec 2018, 12:50 pm

eyes to me are like large marbles pressed into the heads of people.
i get nothing from them.



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02 Dec 2018, 1:51 pm

Not really, but it would depend on who I am interacting with.


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02 Dec 2018, 3:43 pm

Eyes are pretty, but I've definitely never seen any emotions swimming around in them.



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02 Dec 2018, 5:43 pm

No but I wish I could.
I always read about like "they were smiling but their eyes held such deep sadness" or whatnot and I cant relate. I would honestly have no idea. All I see is their color.


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02 Dec 2018, 7:28 pm

I can read expressions well enough, especially involuntary microexpressions, but I'm better with deciphering tone of voice.


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03 Dec 2018, 10:01 am

yeah, it doesn't do much for me personally. I CAN, however, get an idea based off of what their eyebrows or mouths are doing. It usually works, but there are days where i just can't read faces at all. Tone of voice is kind of 50/50 for me, though. I usually can't tell the difference between joking tones or angry/annoyed ones, and i often confuse the two.



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03 Dec 2018, 10:43 am

I can do averagely on those online tests where they show you eyes and give you a list of emotions to choose from. However I'm not at all sure about a real life, face to face scenario.


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