Autism and Baby Showers

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I have autism myself. I have relatives who also have it. If they have a child, should I throw them a baby shower.

What's a baby shower?

I'm in the UK. We don't really have baby showers, but they're becoming more popular.

The best thing to do is ask the pregnant woman what she wants.

My most recent pregnant friend didn't want one so we took her to afternoon tea instead and just chilled out. No gifts.

We don't have that stuff here. but I don't see why you wouldn't have a baby shower for autistic relatives. Their baby will need things too, so it would be helpful for them.

Baby showers are usually hosted by female friends or relatives, or the mother-to-be herself, not male relatives.

It's an occasion where the relatives & friends of the mom to be & sometimes the dad, get together & give presents that would be useful for having a baby

Yes. It is normally a close female friend or relative who host these events. Some baby showers can become almost as elaborate as wedding showers. Maybe with 20-50 people attending.

That sounds like an improvement on whatever the standard ritual is. Luckily for me I'm no longer close to anybody who might get pregnant, and being from the UK this baby shower thing hasn't taken hold of everybody yet. Of course being male also helps - I guess most men have nothing to do with it. I've no problem with people who like such things feeding their passion, I'm just grateful that it's a ritual from which I'll very likely be spared. I imagine it to involve a lot of money wasted on poorly thought-out purchases, a lot of sellers rubbing their hands together in glee at having found another marketing trick to sell rubbish, and a lot of loud, high-pitched voices exaggerating the importance of the whole event. But then I do have a tendency to foresee the worst in things.