naturalplastic wrote:
BTDT wrote:
Some people think that everyone thinks like them. They can't comprehend any other way of thinking.
Not SOME people.
EVERY one does that. You, me, everyone.
Everyone's natural tendency is to project themselves onto others. The difference is that folks in the minority are forced to accommodate the majority mindset in order to survive, while the majority can ignore the minority pov with impunity.
I agree that is the case for most, if not all people.
TUF wrote:
I think it's just hard for people of any neurology to understand fear of social situations if they don't fear them themselves. Just like any other phobia. The annoying woman in college yesterday was scared of rivers. (She's annoying for other reasons not for having a phobia). I'm sympathetic to that but I don't understand it.
As for people who tell introverts to get out of our shells just because we prefer one to one conversations - no, they don't understand us. They get their energy from social situations and with us it's the opposite.
Exactly.
TUF wrote:
NTs can't understand what it is to navigate a social world as if you're always an outsider. That isn't to say that they're never outsiders themselves though. Some NT kids have a whole term of being bullied for going to a new school. Then they learn the customs and are accepted. Autistic kids don't learn it, or it's masking, so they get bullied anyway or have other things (masking) which are bad for mental health.
While I agree that NTs are more likely to m\adapt and pass, it's not universal. Some stick out and get picked on. There were 3 girls in my elementary school class that got picked on all through elementary school, and I have no reason to think they weren't NT.