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Hi all, I’m new to this.

How do you all deal with relationships and coping with your partners whereabouts and constantly worrying and panicking?

First off - Welcome to Wrong Planet.

It seems that you are referring to a clinging personality. Normally this can destroy relationships. So you probably need to control this trait.

Let me discuss it in these terms. Half the world is composed of introverts and the other half extroverts. It is about 50/50 mix. An introvert recovers by seeking solitude. Peace recovers their energy levels. An extrovert is the exact opposite. Solitude will drive them crazy. They recharge their bodies by communicating with others. They bounce off one person and then the next, each time gaining a little bit more of a charge. That is why a party is heaven for an extrovert. If they feel down, then it is party time.

Now it is important for an introvert to be the best introvert they can be and for an extrovert to be the best extrovert they can be. So an introvert should never be deprived of their solitude and an extrovert should never be deprived of their ability to meet and communicate with others.

So in a relationship between 2 introverts all is well and good, they respect each others need to be alone sometimes. But in a relationship between and introvert and an extrovert, this can cause a great degree of friction. It can be seen as trying to control another person, like you physically own them. It is portrayed as jealousy.

A clinging personality is also suggestive of someone who is rather immature. It is like a child that has to hold onto their mother at all times or they will be scared and have a panic attack.

I'd rather not make assumptions so do you mind giving some context? Why do you worry about your partner's whereabouts and what causes you to panic constantly?

Welcome to Wrong Planet. That's a tough question to start with. There are a variety of reasons why a person could feel panicky and insecure. I hope you'll keep "talking" and maybe post in the relationships subforum.

Hello, I've ever had a proper relationship so I don't know. It can help anxiety over a particular issue though if you

deal with your anxiety generally rather than just in relation to this relationship. Otherwise you'll prob just move

the anxiety around.

Is this about a telephone addict who expects to be in constant contact with you, leaving no time for concentrated thought? I don't deal - I leave. I limit my face time to about an hour per day.

I'm an Aspie & had BAD anxiety & panic attacks within my 1st two relationships. It caused me to become controlling which was a major factor as to why both relationships fell apart. I started taking an anxiety med within my 2nd relationship & that helped some. Shortly after we broke up I was having a hard time getting over her & realized some of my issues were also due to OCD so I started taking OCD medication. The meds I take are Buspar/Buspirone for anxiety & Neurontin/Gabapentin for the OCD. I don't really have those problems within my current relationship but some of that is probably cuz she's also kind of clingy & needy.