Long winded/pedantic ?

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I was asked whether I was long winded . I wasn't sure but answered as best I could . My stepdaughter said yes. A little later the assessor mentioned that I'd been pedantic when giving further information in relation to a question that had been asked .

I've been known to be long-winded/pedantic.

Very common aspect of Asperger's.

firemonkey, what is your question? I don't know what kind of responses you are seeking.

What I was wondering is how much is it an ASD thing.

Isn't it somewhat situational? What was the question, what sort of response did it merit?

If someone asks, "How are you?" and you feel the need to pontificate, then yes, it's a bit pedantic. If you're asked to give a detailed response to why you feel you're on the spectrum, then I think they expect the answer to be a bit long-winded.

Anyway, did your stepdaughter imply you're pedantic often, as in when it's conventionally uncalled for? You'd probably have to ask her for a few examples, then perhaps post them here.

Seems like it's hard to tell how pedantic you are. Also, I think how charismatic or not a person is determines (in part) how long-winded they're perceived. A popular person telling a long story may be met with great interest. A less popular person giving a sentence or two that people are disinterested in may be deemed "long-winded."

I can be pedantic whenever I want to.

My stepdaughter didn't specifically say I was pedantic but neither did she challenge the comment. She was not backwards in coming forward at the assessment and I think if she really thought I wasn't she wouldn't have hesitated to say so.

Well actually that IS,more or less, a symptom of aspergers.

The urge to "monologue" about a special interest. Which may, or may not, be combined with overly formal style speech, nit picking about facts. All of which add up to what might be called "pedantry".

Not all aspies are pedants, and not all pedants are aspies. But the two do often go together.

When I was eight years old I was the textbook "little professor" spoken of by Dr. Aspergers. And I pretty much still have ...a raging pedant... trapped inside ...struggling to get out..... The wrong trigger, and I could turn into the Incredible Hulk...if the IH had overhead projectors instead of biceps busting out of his clothes.

I am very wordy. This has been a problem for me my entire life and I am currently trying to control it, but it's very difficult. It's hard to focus on conversation, my own thoughts, and my surroundings all at the same time.

I'm very pedantic, in that I tend to take issue or be worried/paranoid with matters that most other people probably wouldn't give the slightest damn about.

I loved this image, naturalplastic!

Isn't that an autistic trait ? Expecting someone to know exactly what you are talking about or asking.

Same here. I would read every issue of that comic book.

Wow. Someone said similar to me quite a few years ago on a now defunct autism newsgroup about a post I made. I guess I did expect people to know I was wanting to know if they were long winded/pedantic.

An example of long winded/pedantic is my father, who I view as having professor syndrome.

He had a Ph.D. in math and spent most of his adult life teaching math to college students. However, he felt qualified to lecture on any topic. Especially to his family, but perhaps also to other associates. I called it "pontificating."

I don't believe I was as bad. But I also don't believe I was as autistic.

My brother is also, in my view, an undiagnosed autistic - possibly more so than my dad. One time on a long car trip, they entertained themselves for hours arguing whether any particular truck we passed was either a "big rig" or a "semi," using definitions they made up themselves and that were subject to change. I just tried to tune them out.

Last edited by BeaArthur on 27 Feb 2019, 3:07 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Same

I am all or nothing
If i am quiet i will remain quiet
If ppl abscribe bad things onto me ‘sullenness’ ‘anger’ etc simply fr being a quiet person i become extremely pedantic n long winded

I dont want misunderstanding n as humans we are not mind readers

People ESp neurologically typical ppl
Are prone to bullying, lying, projeting or taking offence

Therefore i try to avoid all my past bad experiences by going crazy with ultimate details and extreme extreme details because I dont know which part they want or want me to say but expected me to know to say or whatever

I know it is annoying
but i wd rather that than have the past experiences reoccurring.

I am also long winded when discussing a topic i care about but so is everyone autistic ppl just see /experience more (proven with MRI ) in a moment compared to NTs so of course we will talk more

Dumb ppl trying to make everyone the same