Are You Quiet in Real Life?

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I’m very introverted and aloof.

Many ppl in my life told me after befriending me

that they always thought im a snob n think im better than them till speaking to me or that im angry or that i am ‘evil’

That might be due to quietness or smthing else

I don’t think im quiet i think i am normal

I'm very quiet. I can go days without speaking without a care in the world. I've also had the same experiences as blooie, with people thinking I'm arrogant when I don't speak. My university roommate in my dormitory said she thought I was a terrible snob when we first met because I was wearing a fluffy robe, brushing my hair, and not speaking other than "hello" when she moved in. I was terrified, but she perceived me as rude.

I think many people speak WAY too much with nothing of importance to say.

I voted mostly

It is sad that people sometimes think ill of others without any evidence and simply for being quiet.

An autism professional once told me that I was rude for not making eye contact. It is a common, well known autism trait to have difficulty with making eye contact! Difficulty, not lack of interest! They should have known better.

But this idea has been ingrained in me as well. I feel so rude and guilty when I cannot reply to people making friendly conversations.

I've had the same response from doctors and other professionals who think I'm being haughty or evasive because of my lack of eye contact and my lack of chatter. If I dare to show any frustration or upset they often treat me like I'm overdramatic, because of the contrast between my emotional side and my quiet side. It's often a lose-lose situation. I've been very selective about which doctors I will continue to see.

If I'm uncomfortable then yes. I become very quiet and I will avoid any direct interaction. I almost feel a sort of avoidance actually.

However, if I am comfortable and know the person, I am talkative to a fault. I will discuss any idea I can catch in my thought process and flood them with it. I am making efforts to control this.

I have always been very quiet.

I'm always relatively quiet. If no one initiates conversation with me, I'll remain completely mute. I do tend to get loud and talk very fast when I'm excited though. If I'm discussing my special interest, I'll bounce and flap and bite my hands and hum because I can't contain the physical energy that builds up when I'm happy.

I am the same way.

I love this.

It all depends on who I'm around. If I'm around people I don't know, then I'm quiet. If I'm around someone familiar, then I can be quite talkative and occasionally loud.

I can often go a full month without speaking. I'm fairly reclusive, have groceries delivered and live alone. I'm not unfriendly, just have no real need to speak. I work alone too, or remotely with others, and that's mostly text/IM/DM ing

I am more talkative with cats than humans. I could easily go months and months without talking to any human if only my life situation allowed it.

I'm very quiet even when I talk.

Guilt and fear of offending or hurting others is my main driving force to talk to people. Unfortunately I often overdo it and probably annoy them more but it has been useful to be made aware of others’ perception of me- even if yhe process was unfair and painful.
However this can make one ‘lose’ themselves.

I am currently striving for a balance of paying attention to my inner state and goals , as well as others’ needs. It is a difficult but necessary balance. It does not come naturally to me.
It is harder as I am prone to alexythemia and reading/self-reflection/socializing on forums, and therapy, has helped me somewhat identify my feelings in the moment.
Somewhat.
Then after figuring that out, even if it just happens by using logic (ie logically i would be angry at ths , others wd be, i am wanting to yell and therefore i must be angry)
I have to prioritize what is and isn’t important.
EG in this moment is talking n figuring outtheir expectation necessary/important or is my own focus n self talk important ?

I am proud when I manage it even in minor interactions.

I put "mostly." Typically I am very quiet and shy, and I also have selective mutism. I cannot force myself to speak unless someone else speaks to me first - I get so nervous that my vocal cords just won't respond. It depends on the situation and how well I'm functioning that day as to whether communication after that point will be much better. But if I'm very comfortable around the person/people/in the situation, and I get started on the right topic without meeting any negative reactions, it can be very hard for me to stop talking.