I feel stupid

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My learning disability and ADHD makes it hard for me to respond to threads.

Some would take days to post something short yet relevant for a reply. Some would type really long after hours and not post it for various reasons. Some, no matter how well they wrote and how others want to know what they say, are just anxious about posting it.
And some, yeah, did responded and did posted but did it badly. I'd be more guilty at the latter end myself.

And there are more reasons why it's hard to respond to threads. You're not alone.



Just take your time.

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Do you know the name of your learning disability OP? I have dyslexia & other related learning disabilities(dyscalculia & dysgraphia) along with ADD. I struggled majorly to write in English class & other skewl stuff. I struggle to write/type online too sometimes but not as much. I've been using forums sense like 2002. I used to just post whatever I wanted to say or tried to say & it didn't come out to well & I took a lot of flack for it. I feel I do a lot better nowadays but that's cuz it takes me a long time to write/type out a post & I still make lots of mistakes & don't feel like I said what I wanted well enough. I just edit when I can & try to better explain & then not worry about it. I still start lots of posts sometimes that I abandon before they're complete or I delete rite after posting cuz I don't feel like I'm saying what I want well enough or I'm just majorly off topic.

The nice thing about the forum is you can take your time to read, comprehend and then post (or not) based on your thoughts. One of the things I like about this forum is some posts give me something to really consider and think about, a new point of view or information.

No one knows when you read a post and how much time lapses between reading a post and when you reply. Take all the time you need.

Most of us have communication problems of one sort or another and are tolerant of inadvertent errors.

Don't feel bad if you have trouble with comprehension or posting. It's fine. Most of us on this site are disabled and many of us. including me, l have trouble with comprehension a lot of times. I am also dyslexic and I often skip entire words and phrases when I write as well and sometimes I have to rewrite things like ten times before I get it right. Every now and then I send an important email to someone and after I send it I read it again and I am embarrassed by all the mistakes even though I proofed it several times. Sometimes I also have to read things several times slowly before I fully understand them as well. It's all ok. You never have to feel stupid or ashamed or anything like that. We love and accept you exactly as you are and we are very glad that you are here and we are always interested in what you have to say.

To the op, what is this thread about to you? Are you just telling us how you feel, as a way to connect...or asking people to verify to you that you are not "stupid'? Well, this is a subjective kind of thing, right> For instance, if a person does not do well on an IQ test, for example, an African American on a test that was designed for and by white people of a certain econiomic standard and background, this in no way means they are stupid. This said, some people, even most people really would consider certain people to be stupid. But I do not know if this is about being stupid, your feelings about yourself, or maybe you are kind of just saying hello and practicing and/or enjoying making a thread.

Secondly, many people have difficulty in responding to threads for many different reasons. I do myself, but enjoy doing so and learning how to do it better, so it's a rewarding experience for me,though at times frustrating.

So, again, are you trying to find out how not to feel this way about yourself, asking for verification from others that you are not so called "stupid," which verification, imo (in my opinion) is of some value but probably not that much value, as people do not always say what they really think.

Or--if you really do think you are, as you put it, stupid,and want to become smarter, then that would be a valuable topic to inquire into , imo, one which I have inquiried into (about myself) in the past and recently again at this present time (the last week or two). This subnject has come up for me for several reasons, one of which is that my boyfriend recently had a stroke, and another thing, is that, unrelated to this, as far as I can tell, or not that related, I started suddenly experiencing at certain moments being a whole lot smarter. Very interesting experience, though probably beyond description. I should mention, also, that I have had some kind of brain damage from excessive concussions, and I did write about this when I was participating on this forum a few years ago.

Final thing, if you or anyone is interested in becoming smarter or even just feeling better about yourself, my suggestion is to find your own inner question and begin to relate to the world from that angle. I will back back later, maybe, to write about this subject in particular or will tell you if I write about it anywhere else on Wrong Planets, as this relates to the entire subject of human intelligence. and also will write about how self-observation has the potential to make a person smarter, and also about the difference between smartness,intelligence and wisdom. We all could probably benefit by being smarter, right?, as then we could better solve many problems of humanity, and then there would be less suffering for peopel and other living creatures in the world.

A lot of times, feeling stupid has to do more with anxiety or depression that it does intelligence:

https://www.aconsciousrethink.com/8344/feel-stupid/

Just do as you can, you and your skills and energy are yours

"No I am not to verify I’m not stupid. It’s just how I feel."

O(h)m:-) Zen thread?

Sometimes I feel stupid, too.

I feel so much smarter in posts where I am educating others about Service Dog training and laws. I know a lot about the topic and most of my replies are already scripted, so it feels much easier.

But I do not get much out of the conversation. The conversations that I do get the most out of are ones that are novel, so I have to study them, self-reflect on them, research about them, and painstakingly write a reply to them. It is slow and difficult, which makes me feel stupid, but I know I am smarter for having done it.

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Diagnosed: Autism Spectrum Disorder, Auditory-Verbal Processing Speed Disorder, and Visual-Motor Processing Speed Disorder.

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"I am silently correcting your grammar."

My brain is mostly a foggy scattered mess a lot of the time which prevents me from articulating what I want to say and makes me forget what I just read. I end up not replying on many threads despite knowing I have something to contribute but can't because I can't find the right words. I miss how well my brain worked when I was on Adderall.