Wanting Great Grandchildren

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My mom's mom have 6 children. She has 9 grandchildren. One has 3 children. The other also has three. One has three. One has two (soon to be three). One has only one child. The other one doesn't have kids. Her oldest grandchild doesn't have a partner. Her other grandchildren are unsure because of their autism. The rest are too young. Should I feel upset about being her great grandchildless?

Not at age 22. You have plenty of time.

I got confused and thought you were trying to be a great grandparent! No, you never have to feel guilty about not producing offspring for other people. Having children is a personal choice, and nobody has the right to make you feel bad for either having, or not having children. I'm 26, my sister is 21 and my stepbrother is 22. I've known since childhood that I was never going to have children, and I feel no guilt over that, despite my mother having expressed a desire to be a grandparent. I don't have to make a life-altering decision just to make her happy.

Any of you having kids is up to each of you, not her

I'm 58, and don't have any kids.

I have no chance to be a grandparent, no less a great-grandparent.

My parents will most likely never have any grandkids either. Do not feel bad about it. it's fine.

I'm 45, I don't want kids, I'm not even married, my parents are okay with that, and even though I know some people *like* having large families, just hearing about someone with 4 kids or more makes my insides shrivel up.

Especially when the parent proudly claims none of their kids were vaccinated. If you go to any cemetery and look at the children's graves, you might notice that up until sometime in the 1950's most people had a lot of kids... but for long.