any advice on my current social situation?

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hello, i am doing the diagnosis test for ASD soon , as was referred by my psychiatrist. so im not officially diagnosed but will explain my current social situation anyway and see what anyone thinks or can relate or has any advice. i have always been socially incompetent, since birth. managed to make a few friends in my life but always lost them after a short amount of time. i just started a new college 3 weeks ago, and found my self feeling very lost. the most lost ive ever felt. ive always been able to verbalise things however very quitely and rarely. but this last 3 weeks have been different. ive been stuttering, running around like a headless chicken, trying to act normal in front of new faces but saying the most bizarre, wrong things and feeling extreme social anxiety within the situation and even more after (update: now ive writien it down and looked back at it, ive actually always been like this but possibly never been as aware as i am currently of it). as you can tell, im very aware of my issues (well issues is what others may refer it as). i never used to be very aware, but i seem to be fully aware now and aware off my life and its very uncomfortable and am also having lots of flashbacks of breakdowns in my life and being bullied etc. ive always been socially incompetent but id never get to caught up in it as i liked to be alone anyway as i got bullied a lot too but curently am eager to leave my isolation box and try fit it, but is not working at all. ive had many phases of social isolation in my 18 years on this bizarre planet, but with this new feeling of self awareness, i want to be socially isolated forever, which i know is not the best thing to do but im certainly considering it as i have reached a new low of social incompetence. does anyone understand this situation or has advice or can simply relate or coping techniques?

There's a reason this forum is called Wrong Planet. Many people here feel like this is a bizarre planet and we must have been accidentally dropped off from somewhere else where life makes sense. It is pretty typical to feel socially isolated. It was easier when I was in college because it was late 60s and the whole bit about different life styles was really raging, so a lot of people were weird. I was weirder, but it wasn't so obvious.

So welcome to Wrong Planet. Reading and posting on the forum helps. After you get your diagnosis, you may get accommodations at school, or perhaps some counseling to deal with the stress. It is my opinion that isolating is not a bad thing. Aspie's generally need more rest after a lot of socializing.

What do you want to do, ultimately?

College is a naturally stressful time. Is it only the social aspect or are classes, assignments, etc, adding to it? If those are problems, revisiting your study habits can ease it. Otherwise be sure to get in some quiet time and don't be too hard on yourself.

I know this thread is alittle old but I got a message that there was a reply that must of been deleted. Anyways my advice that I didn't think of when I read this thread months ago, just incase someone else is having a similar problem, my advice is to try an online skewl. The social demands would be a lot less.